Virgin no more, still have questions though

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    willieb4257 New Member

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    Ok, i've been posting some questions, and first, i would like to thank you guys for being very helpful.

    Last weekend i finally did it, and it was great, lasted awhile, about 40 minutes.
    but at times, i felt like my penis was loosing erection.
    when we're making out or whateva, i get a really big hard on, really fast. but when it came to actual sex, i lost it. took me awhile to get it back up.

    Any reason why? anxiety or whatever?
    also, are there any natural pills out there in gnc or somwhere for stronger harder and longer erections?
    thanks all again
     
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    Probably anxiety, but maybe "whatever." 40 minutes is quite awhile to maintain a rock-solid erection without any letdown whatsoever. Your mind may have wandered a bit, just enough to lose it momentarily. You got it back, so I think it's premature to start looking for medical help.

    Yes, there are prescription pills for longer, harder erections -- Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra. They all have side-effects and all are expensive. Some herbs may help some men a bit; fish oil and other diets often help, but I don't think you have a problem. I wouldn't try to "fix" yourself at this point. It may cause a new set of problems for no reason.
     
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    I think I saw you ask this on another forum as well. IMO you are obsessing about it and unless you stop worrying, you are going to keep having the same problem. You don't need pills. I believe you are just having performance anxiety - especially since you got the erection back, and you can get a good one to start with. The only "aid" i would recommend is maybe a cock ring.
     
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    he igor

    how cock rings eork, u use them before sex, or during.
    it might be performance anxiety, like i said, during foreplay i stay rock hard, then righ t before sex, it softens up.
     
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    Joe had some excellent advice for you and I agree that it was very likely anxiety.
     
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    WillieB,
    The main point is DON'T WORRY about it! God made that chick for you! Relax and enjoy her! Hang loose and explore everything that about that looks beautiful and interesting! I've asked girls to flip over so I can caress their delicate backs, and run my hands over those curvey buns! And then the other side to enjoy those pointy peaks, that oval tummy, and the gates of heaven hiding behind the bristles! Most girls aren't expecting you to put on a show! But they do sense it when you really dig their bodies! I've even asked girls to just take a few minutes to walk around the room a few times naked! They seem to get a kick out of it, and I just love that 17 jewel movement! A naked girl with a graceful walk just thrills me! And I forget my anxiety!
     
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    You probably experienced what is termed performance anxiety. It is very common and happens to everyone at one time or another. Main thing is to relax and not worry about the event. Maybe visualizing staying hard, being yourself, and enjoying it might work.

    As for buying stuff at gnc to help you stay hard, my advice is forget it. If you want to waste you money buy a lighter to burn a $100 bill. The advertising on any product that claims to keep you hard is my hype then reality. However if you do find that the problem is more physical than psychological then a visit to you family doctor might be in order. Though quite rare and do not believe that this is the case, you could have a problem with the artery that supplies the penis.
     
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    Performance anxiety, Juicybrucy has the right answer, when it happens enjoy the moment. Fantasise. The more you stress about it, the more it will play on your mind and the more problems you will have.

    Happens to me sometimes, so next time we have sex I relax more, concentrate more on what is happening between us, conciously enjoy the sensations of being naked with my lover, and its okay.
     
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