Virgin needing advice.

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  1. Aguy

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    So I am a virgin, by choice, and I think I finally found the girl who I want to do this with. Problem is, I have always lied to everyone claiming I am not a virgin, which everyone has believed (to my knowledge) due to the fact that I get plenty of girls. The two girls I told I was a virgin, would not let up about letting them have sex with me once we started fooling around. But if I tell them I am not a virgin, when it gets to the point for sex, I just tell them it doesnt feel right and they are fine with that.

    Well anyway, I told this girl, that i was not a virgin as well. Now we are pretty much set to have sex, and I dont know what I should do. Should I tell her, that I am a virgin? Should I tell her before we hang out? During foreplay? after sex? Not at all?

    What are your opinions?
     
  2. relaxhun

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    .........? I don't get it.....?

    Tell her after imo :)
     
  3. Link

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    The problem isn't that you are a virgin. I was also when I met my wife. If she likes/loves you, that won't matter at all.

    The problem is that you are a liar. All you can do now is level with her and hope for the best. If she says it's no big deal, then you're in the clear. If she feels hurt or betrayed, then you've got some trust to rebuild. Basically, put the ball in her court and go from there.
     
  4. Bluesy

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    Tell her before, explain why you've kept it a secret, and hope she'll be understanding. I think that's the best you can do. Good luck!
     
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    I lost my virginity at 5 so I never been able to understand what the big deal is. Hell just do it.
     
  6. .D.

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    I couldn't agree more with Bluesy. If she's really someone you're willing to do this for, then I'm sure she'd understand. Being honest with her is extremely important, and if she can't accept you for your honesty, then she's not the person for you.
     
  7. Barbwire

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    Are you serious? Do tell.
     
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    Serioiusly, 5 years old is crazy!
     
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    I didn't even know what "Mister P.P." was for at age five. :ugh
     
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    Be honest in relationships

    I fully agree with Bluesy. Women need to feel secure in the relationship and the sooner you restore that trust, the better for both of you. I do recommend that you take a little time to plan just what and how you are going to ask for forgiveness. You may be able to explain that you got caught up in the past by women who were not interested in a virgin and you have realized, wrongly, that you needed to portray yourself as experienced. That you did not want to waste your first experience on just any bimbo, but you have had discovered that she is special and you want her to be the first one, if she will help you through the experience. Ask her to please forgive you for being deceptive and that you realized it might have hurt her.

    Something like that can soften the impact -- use your own words, but make it honest and romantic.
     
  11. Rose

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    By all means, tell her BEFORE. And I'm not talking about right before you stick it in :lol

    She needs to know that you've given this much thought, and she's the one you've chosen for this experience. It's a very special moment for both of you. Telling her in advance gives her the chance to enjoy it ( losing your virginity to her) as much as you.
     
  12. Puss_in_boots

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    I wonder what happened. This thread had lain dormant for almost a year. :shrug
     
  13. Barbwire

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    I see the OP is back on the board. Perhaps he replied, which bumped the thread, then he deleted the reply, but the thread remained at the top?
     
  14. Rose

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    LOL - it looks like it was 'little ol' me who bumped this thread :lol

    Frankly, I'm not sure how it happened, as I thought I was responding to something in "View New Posts" :shrug
     
  15. Puss_in_boots

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    I think CL is probably right. The OP must have somehow bumped this old thread without leaving a new post. In any case, that's against our forum rules:

     
  16. Rose

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    Nope - it was me :ugh Check your PMs ...

    Rose
     
  17. Barbwire

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    Puss, I hope you have Rose a MAJOR infraction for bumping this thread. :dgrin
     
  18. Puss_in_boots

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    I gave her a stern talking to. :whip
     
  19. Rose

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    My bad :dgrin
     
  20. HardRocker

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    Well, your answer was the best one anyway, Rose.;)

    I wish he'd tell us about it.