Hello everyone! I have two questions for you guys, one of which is about sex itself, and one is more of a feeling sorta question. My girlfriend and I have been going out for over 3 years now. We're both 19, but we've yet to have sex. (we're both virgins) Anyways, we're just starting to get ready to have sex. Well, we tried not too long ago, and it really didn't turn out as planned. We were at my parent's house, and everyone was asleep so we were trying to be quiet. We were just about to finally go at it, but i was going slowly to try and make sure she didn't scream out or anything. (since i hear it can be kinda painful.) But mainly, i really didn't want to hurt her as i started penetrating her. I ended up going really slowly, but did this hurt things more than help? I ended up pulling out before even getting all the way in though, she said it was really hurting her. Would going in quickly make things easier for the very first time? Anyways, about my girlfriend. she's never really been too terribly sexual. Sure we haven't had sex, but we've both done everything up to oral. She masturbates a lot, but she never really gets horny too often, and when she does it doesn't last long. She's lied many times to me about me getting her to orgasm,so i really dunno if she enjoys any of the things i do at all. It almost seems like her libido is nonexistent, for the most part. We've read that in order to get really excited in bed, a girl has to feel sexy about herself. Do you guys have any suggestions about this, or at least any advice for helping her get more in the mood? This would probably also help out with the issue in bed, i would imagine. sorry for the wall-of-text, and thank you guys in advance for your help!