I am looking for a little insight here from women and or anyone in a happy and sexually happy relationship. I am having a real issue with my marriage due to our sex life. We have been together 7 years and married for 1 year and we are now maybe having sex twice a month. We are both busy professionals but really not that busy.... I feel as though its just not something she ever thinks about and when she does it seems more obligatory than lust filled. The sex is good not great when we have it but I would be fine with that if it were just more frequent. Can't do it before bed because she can't fall alseep after. Can't do it in the morning she is too tired or doesn't feel fresh. So now what? I feel very frustrated by this as I am a good guy and attentive husband that listens and treats her right so I don't feel there's some emotional disconnection happening with her. Also I tried to spice it up by getting her a vibrator on a weekend away and she liked it fine, but then put it in the closet and never mentioned it again? I guess this bugs me most because this is the woman I love and want to spend my life with but the sex in every other relationship I have had was Intense and all the time. My hope is that after 7 years things would get even more adventurous and we would evolve and explore together. But the sex is basically the same for about 4 years now. Same position, same sequence, same acceptable ways to have an orgasm. I am so frustrated its seems like now a blow job is a national holiday and I am starting to question everything. Any advice is helpful.