vanilla boy...

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by blondi, Oct 31, 2010.

  1. blondi

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    so, im not into bdsm or anything but ive deffinitely got a kinky streak in me. im also very submissive. the guy im with right now is VERY vanilla. took me months just to get him to do doggy style. im starting to suspect hes kind of a sub too...hes very dominant in our relationship but when it comes to sex hes a little to gentle and timid. can someone give me ideas how to get him to be more dominant during sex? Or maybe just some good easy positions that could change things up a little?
     
  2. igor

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    How long have you been together? Some things just take time.
     
  3. HardRocker

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    If he's just inexperienced and by some miracle, never watched porn, maybe he just has no idea how different and exciting sex can be. If he's confident and dominant in other aspects of his life, I would guess with a little education and prompting with you as his guide, he could develop into a raging sex machine. Maybe each new idea will be accepted with increasing quickness as he gains confidence.

    Good luck. I hope you'll keep us posted. There are many others here who will undoubtedly chime in, so hang around a few days and see what kinds of ideas our imaginative members can suggest for you.
     
  4. Ready2Please

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    Welcome to the forum. Like HR said maybe he needs a bit of direction.
     
  5. blondi

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    for igor: we've been having sex almost five months...together over nine

    ready2please and hardrocker: no he doesnt watch porn, hes all about respect women (which i love about him but....kind of a downer in this sense) so ya ill deffinitely try just some direction...sticking around for sure, cant wait to see some more responses
     
  6. lbushwalker

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    Hi Blondi,
    Your question is similar to another thread.
    See First 1 by little mrs in Sex and Relationship section for my take on this subject.
     
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    Write him a letter telling him every dirty kinky thing that you can think of wanting him to do to you. Leave it for him to find alone one day. See what he says later.

    ~Steve
     
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    Oooo...I'm gonna snag the idea for leaving a letter Steve - Thanks! :)
     
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    gg i like the my icarus post :)