Using a dildo on my wife

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by jolly, Apr 8, 2007.

  1. jolly

    jolly New Member

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    About 3 months ago I (37 years old, 5'9" 165lbs) bought a vibrator and dildo for my wife (31 yo, 5'6", 120 lbs).

    I've always fantasized about watching her have sex with another man but that is normally only when I am horny (after sex the idea normally repulsed me). Our chief concerns were cleanliness and discretion. That being said i decided to get a dildo (realistic reproduction of a porn star's penis) and vibrator and surprised her with it. I could tell she was curious but pretending to not be interested.

    The vibrator was standard length and lights would flash when the thing really got going. The dildo was a suction-based penis, eight inches long, five inch circumference, rubber, and aptly named the "Big Unit". My penis (I haven't measured but estimate) is five inches long erect and probably 4-4.5 inches circumference. I have no problem admitting I have a small cock. It works, that is all that matters to me : )

    So, the first time we tried it (the combination of the vibrator and Big Unit) she was a little hesitant. The first time we tried it was on the couch in the living room. I licked her clit and pussy for a while. Then I started with the virbrator around her clit. She had a couple of small orgasms. I kept with that for what seemed like an eternity until I could see her pussy was gushing wet. Then I inserted the Big Unit - no lube, no condom. She was so slick that the huge cock went in and out with ease. She was so exhilerated by its presence in her that she had a tough time panting her words but she kept remarking how deeply it was touching her. I was inserting all eight inches in her; in and out, in and out.

    I kept asking for feedback on whether it felt good (I didn't want to hurt her if that was possible) and only every so often would she say "yes". So I kept going with the dildo and vibrator until she just exploded with a huge orgasm and she demanded I take the dildo out because it was giving her a panic attack (heart rate highly accelerated and massive amounts of adrenaline running through her body - that was her description).

    My cock was a leaky faucet. I was dripping everywhere from just watching her experience and whether I stuck it in her or jerked myself off I was going to be happy no matter what. I can't emphasize enough how erotic it was to watch her getting off like that. That never happens when she and I have sex.

    I asked her afterward if it felt good and she wouldn't answer. I kept pestering her and finally she said "It felt good. It felt really good."

    "So big dick is good ?" I asked. And she responded "Yes, big dick is really good." But she said this in a way as if she didn't want to have to admit it.

    At this point I felt as though it was "Mission Accomplished". I got to watch her get fucked (all be it by a dildo but it looked like a real dick) good. I got to watch her have multiple and comprimising orgasms. And, I myself was able to get off. I can't imagine anything better to ask for.

    We did this again a couple of more times both in our bedroom and on our living room couch. But, I noticed that each time she would say that "these things are dangerous because they are addicting." And I thought, hey, great. If it feels really good keep doing it.

    So, lately she has been avoiding sex all together. Not playing with the instruments. Not letting me play with her pussy. Occasionally we have traditional sex and even though it is fun it just isn't the same. I really enjoyed it and her body and mind told me she enjoyed it but she is avoiding it. I really don't care if she winds up preferring the big cock to my little pecker because we are both getting off.

    Part of it might be that she is really busy and exhausted with work, and we have a child. But ultimately I think she is avoiding doing something that she really enjoys. So we shall see.

    I have tried researching techniques for improving the overall process of using the dildo/vibrator technique and have found nothing informative. I would really like to do this with her three or four times per week.

    Advice welcome.
  2. darkone

    darkone New Member

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    Not sure, but by reading in what you wrote I think your wife is avoiding the toys you got her because she wants just you and not toys. Yes it may feel good to her but maybe you keep pushing the fact on her that they are bigger than you and you always starting to play with those all the time. Is making her feel uncomfortable that maybe she will hurt your feelings because she does like the toys or whatever. This is a bit of a touchy subject... but talk to her on why she has feeling this way? Work and lack of sleep is not it. It's definitely something wrong and you guys need to talk to sort it out.

    I don't know I in general don't buy toys unless they are my size or a bit smaller. One too keep that passion and wanting between us both and it should never come down to a toy satisfying your wife instead of you.

    But this is just my opinion

    -D1-

  3. reprezent

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    It sounds to me like she is not being entirely honest with herself or you about the situation. Maybe she needs some time and loving communication to get to the root of the matter. The real reason could be something neither one of you ever considered, or it could be one of the reasons you listed above, or even a combination. Tiredness might actually have something to do with it...
  4. oldkinky

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    My wife and I fantasize while watching group sex DVD. She will use a realistic dildo while she gives me a blowjob and we fantasize that we are having a threesome. I will pretend to be the other guy and tell her how good a fuck she is. when I start cumming she will cum.
  5. bighiker2003

    bighiker2003 Banned

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    This answer is a good one
    But I would like to add a few words and subtract a few words,
    Don't ever ask if it was good, You should know that, Even when fucking
    you should concentrate on giving Her pleasure, And that requires
    some dialogue of encouragement not questions. You know that She
    did achieve an orgasm, So let it go and don't ask anymore
    as that could make He feel guilty about it feeling better than
    the real thing.
    I have bought many toys for my Wife. She likes the ones with a little stimulator
    for the clit (wascally wabbit) And I never buy one smaller than Me even though
    I am 9'. Whats the point. You want her to feel good don't you
    so get her the big one and encourage Her to use it often
    I love watching a Woman's face when using a big one.
    And don't worry about it taking your place, It might make Her
    want sex more often, And that what you want isn't it.

    Hiker:sf