Use Porn for reference?

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  1. k00lice

    k00lice New Member

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    Have you ever wathed porn and used tecnique shown in the film to your GF/BF?

    I have actually used 'a lot' from Porn on my first sex. But, I now find that most porn are made to satisy male ego or desire. Worse, porn stars are like animals and seem that they are enjoying.

    But, here's another interesting thing. I have watched porn produced for female and it was very different from ones we (or male pehaps) see.

    And this is my second question to girls,
    Do you like to be treated or f**ked like in (mainstream) porn movie?
     
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    Yes I think I`ve taken some things from porn but you have to do things in moderation. Sometimes a woman wants slow sensual sex which is the opposite of porn but on the other hand there are times when a woman wants to be banged hard and fast like a porn. It depends on the mood and the person. The one thing I see in porn that I don`t like is the guy eating her out for 1 minute and not bringing her to orgasm.

    I have seen some of the female oriented porn and it`s more sensual with more story line.
     
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    When I first started having sex porn was helpful in learning how to give blowjobs, to incorporate hands, face and to do things that appeal to a man visually as well.

    Seeing anal sex in porn was entirely detrimental, after watching how it was done, having never done it before myself, I was terrified of trying it! In a porno, there is no time or attention paid to prepping the woman, they just rocket into her butt with their mammoth cock! :eek I understand the semantics of why it's done this way now, but at the time, when I was so impressionable and inexperienced it did alot more harm than good.

    Porn made for females is okay, most that I've seen tries too hard to be romantic. For some reason romance and porn just don't mesh well together, the romance seems contrived and I end up fast forwarding to the sex scenes anyway. :lol

    I guess I'd rather see a mainstream film with alot of sexual tension that sets my own imagination into orbit, than see someone else's version of female eroticism.

    And if I want raw, hard, sex, well male oriented porn serves that purpose.
     
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    Porn works for reference as you are learning and it is a great source of inspiration to watch with you partner but in the end, you have to do what feels right for you and recognize that not everyone wants it like it is in the movies.
     
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    I do all the time. toally. When i see a girl doing something really hot that just seems like somethin i would never think of then i always try it out. i mean alot of girls in porn suck at having sex and makin it look good. I always think id do a better job and I actully get jeoulus lol. but some of the girls are really great at makin it super hot and I wanna be just like them.
     
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    Thanks for your opinions guys.

    It seems that men like girls to act as pornstars. Actually, I like when girls are having sex like pornstars. But, sometimes it hits me this question, "are they enjoying it??" I had some casual sex with a really nice girl. But, she was different person to me in the bed. And, I asked her what made her so much different. The answer was the pressure from the PORN. She actually belived she had to be a pornstar to please men.

    I know this is a rare case. But, I guess it depends on who you are with and how comfortable with each other.
     
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    I'm not so sure if it's actually all that rare. We've had many discussions here about how what is "normal" has been distorted by the porn industry. Young men expect their partners to be willing to engage in face fucking, facials, anal sex, etc, and are actually surprised when she's not willing to do it.

    I too learned a lot about blow job techniques from watching porn, but it's important to keep in mind that porn is mostly not a realistic portrayal of what goes on in most couples' bedrooms.
     
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    I think the sexiest pornstar-ish quality is simple enthusiasm.

    If a woman can manage to have even halfway decent technique and go about it with responsiveness and genuine enthusiasm, she is every bit as hot as a porn star! (I think even more so ;))

    To me, that's probably the most useful 'technique' I've learned from watching porn.
    And I believe that when a woman allows herself to get into that element, she enjoys the sex more as well.
     
  9. heelfetish

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    I couldn't agree more, NK! :)

    We all know that porn sets unrealistic expectations for sex in the same way that every Hollywood blockbuster movie is equally unrealistic. But some things can be learned, you just have to know which parts to take with a grain of salt. :)
     
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    I agree NK. Men too, confidence goes a long way.
     
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