I was thinking about this last night, and thought it was worth posting here. In the past 6 months, as most of you know, my sex life w/ hubby has been aweful. We are both in our late 20's, and have sex less than once a week. We had sex last Monday, only b/c of the holiday, and that ended a 3.5 week wait. I mean, it had been 3.5 weeks before we had sex. Anyway, it has been like that in the past 6 months. I have talked so many times to him about myself being able to finish, since I have never had an orgasm w/ him. And I swear, he hasn't done one thing about it, or even talked to me. I can't understand. How can a man that says he "loves me so much" not take time out to figure out what will make me cum? I thought about yall last Monday. Like I said, it had been 3.5 weeks since we had sex. We went walking on a wooded trail, a strenous 3 mile in the mountains. Well, he got aroused towards the end, and I decided to go ahead and have sex. So, we were facing each other, standing up, and he slid inside me, and I swear to you all about this.....it took him less than 20 seconds before he came. He came, pulled up his pants, and was like, ready to finish this trail??? I thought I would die. WTF am I? A complete masturbation tool for him? You all just don't realize how utterly frustrated I am w/ his unconcern about our sex life. I feel so ripped off, and I feel like my pussy is going to ROT the hell off my body. He makes me feel so unsexy and sad sometimes. HOW can he go w/o sex for so long and NOT show any concern about it, OR talk about it???????????????? And how can you try to talk to someone that doesn't want to talk about it? What is he feeling? Why isn't our sex life important to him? His canned answer is always something like, "Well, you are always so negative about sex" That isn't true as I tell him he feels so good, which he does. How can he live w/ that being his excuse for the current problems? How long can a couple go w/o ever having sex? I feel like we are just really good friends. I haven't had a sexual kiss in so long, months. And it is really causing me some issues. I mean, if you can't have a good sloppy kiss, you know something is wrong. I mean shit, is he gay? Or cheating? He finally admitted to masturbating the other day. It was like trying to pull teeth. I was trying to get him to tell me, to turn me on, but he acted like a 14 year old that just got caught When he swears he doesn't masturbate, he doesn't realize his lieing insults my intelligence 100x over. I swear I think I am going to hire a PI. When I try to talk to him, he clams up like a mute person. He says he can't talk to me, he feels that we will argue. Personally...I think he has something to hide. His defensiveness alerts my gut instincts. Any insight??