Unsure of how to instigate sex (or anything sexual)??

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by GluteusMaximus, Mar 14, 2007.

  1. GluteusMaximus

    GluteusMaximus New Member

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    I'm in college, not a virgin or inexperienced at all, but for the last two years I've had a girlfriend so it wasn't hard to have sex pretty much whenever. Since we are now broken up, and I am actively looking for other girls to be with, I don't have much experience before my ex-gf regarding instigating anything sexual on a whim. I do not want to embarrass myself but I also don't want to look like a prude. I am not insecure about my body, my penis size, my looks, etc. I am just somewhat the shy type when it comes to talking sexually with a girl I am for the most part unfamiliar with. Can anyone drop some advice as to how I can go about bringing up the subject without looking like a pervert or completely inexperienced? Or for that matter what to do if i get her back to my room without looking like an ass. Thanks...
     
  2. Sexkitten69

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    Woah hey wheres da help ladies and gentlemen???

    What used to work for me ( Im more of an initiator for those type things *no sence waiting for someone else to do it *) But the key for me was talk :blahblah *ya like there arent enough of us blabbermouth girls right?*

    In your case its far harder to find sex and relationships than it is for us ladies So the following should work for you *worked on me plenty of times even when I was playing hard to get* ;)

    Talk about things that ARENT TABLE TALK it's far stranger to us when some guy comes up to you at and bar and asks "crazy weather we're having isnt it?" than it would for a guy to come up to us and say "this place has nice music" Or "What're you drinking?" Or even an old fasion *rarely used* pick up line ***espeially if it cheesy***.

    She won't take you seriously when you ask "Is heaven missing an angel?"(so now worries about her caling you on how cheesy that in *in a negative way, she could do so jokeingly in which case you've mad a connection* and it'd be a great unusual way to break the ice and show her that youre a unique charactre. :)

    (USE OR SUBSTITUTE WITH YOUR OWN CHEESY LINE)

    Once you get into conversation set things up to be open conversation between you two, talk about yuorself while adding in questions about her, "I think that __ is great, What'd you think?" In Example " Man this music is great, I like Trance music. Would be better if it was__ Don't you think? ...." ** Granted you will get the few girls who will bat you at every swing, in those cases its best to move on, its trouble to begin with :ugh **

    If you talk about how kewl your room/apartment/house is then you give her ample room to voice intrest, If its a particular part of your house/ room ect. (i.e an autographes Pink Floyd poster /CD collection) theres rom for her to say something like " That's so neat, I'd like to see that sometime" then common sence should take its course and you should then ask her to

    A.) Call you sometime *give #, say you got to go and seem misterious (shes more prone to call you because of that and b/c unlike the other 460 men that have hit on her that nigh you didn't try to get her into bed.)
    or B.) "why not com eover and see my *book, jar, CD, DVD, Butterfly collection or whatever she took intrest in "I can drive you home afterwards if you'd like" ( ALWAYS ENSURE THAT SHE HAS A WAY HOME, THAT WAY HER FRIENDS WONT WANT TO COME WITH AND SHE'LL BE MORE LIKELY TO GO * if she trusts you and you've talked for a long enough time to prove youre not a cerialkiller*:lol

    Once you get her home to show her your ___ *incert object of intrest that got her to go home with you* and she has thoroughly admired it, offer her a beverage- :eek NOT A LIQUOR BEVERAGE:eek , you don't want her thinking that you just took her to your home to drunken her up, offer her water soda or any other non alcoholic drink. *if she asks for a liquor drink then comply but refrain from liquor on any other sercumstance *CANT STRESS IT ENOUGH*
    While you sit there and enjoy your bevrages and take a breather from the busy club, why not turn on the TV or pop in a Cd? * Note: when dealing with a girl who is showing typical 'freindly but not THAT friendly' signals, turing on the TV and tuning to a porno or putting in a CD that sounds even remotely like make out music will null and void all that you have worked twards*

    If she compliments the music great if she doesnt ask if she likes _ *list other bands on.
    other CDs* TV. Turn to Channles such as HBO *the light channels not the raunchy ones* comedy central, Fox, anything that has popular sitcoms.

    Wach a bit of T.V Lisen to a bit of music, talk a little bit, look at your watch, politely ask if she has any spechial time she needs to be home, Drive her home and remind her to give you a call *or get her number* drive home, Sleep. Wait for her to call you or call her no more than two days later and no sooner than 24 hrs.

    *****You may not have gotten what you were (or we'ren't after) but chances are you will sooner than you think.:D *****

    ~~SK69 ^.^~~:sf
     
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    Sexkitten69 New Member

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    Still no fem fetal responses? Wheres DA LUV !???