Unrequited fantasy

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  1. shy_david

    shy_david New Member

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    I'm a very shy conservative person by day, but by night I'm a hopeless erotic addict. We've been married for 12 years, she is only my second partner, and i'm her first partner. We're striclty monogamous, but have been getting slowly more adventurous over the years with vibrators, ass play (both me and her on the receiving end) and couples-friendly porn.

    I've got this desire in my head that won't go away, and that's to be penetrated by a guy and have him orgasm in me.

    I'm often thinking of this when I'm going down on her,and i'm stretched out on the bed between her legs and licking her lips and clit, and there's a bit of time to dream while she's slowly getting into it. I wonder what it would be like to lie there, exciting her closer to coming, while having a guy come up behind me to ease my legs and cheeks apart, and then brush his cock, balls and pubes slowly up and down my cleft and over my hole. I long to know what it would be like to have a cock head nudge me open and then have the full length of the shaft pushed all the way in so i could feel tight around it and could squeeze on it. What would it be like to make her come at the same time as someone comes in my ass?

    It took me years before i was able to pluck up the courage and tell my wife of my fantasy. My wife has confessed that she thought about it once or twice while she was lying back and dreaming of something to help her get get there while she was being licked.

    How does this seem to the girls? Does it strike an echo with any of you, or do you ever think about this when your guy goes down on you?

    Anyone else got the same fantasy and indulged it?

    I couldn't ever imagine my wife wanting to take part in anything involving a third person or another couple, but I wish that just once we could do it in a way that would be good for as well as her.

    What's the answer? Should we just accept that fantasies should stay unrequited?
     
  2. loveit247

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    I would personally puke my guts up if my SO told me he wanted that. I am not interested at all in my partner taking part in homosexual activities. I would break it off with a man if that was what he was in to.

    But if you both like that then great for you. Go onto adult friend finder and see what you can find.
     
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    Shy David,most people have fantisies,
    but thats just what they are.Fantisies.Thats something we dream of doing
    but most people don't act on thier fantisies.
    Is there a chance you may be bi and never realised it?
    Have you ever thought of having a gay encounter?
    If your wife is ok with it look into swinging.It would give you a good chance to try it without
    The guilt that might come with letting it be someone you know.
    I hope you get figured out soon.
     
  4. Bluesy

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    Never go through with a threesome if there are any doubts, on either partner's behalf, is what is generally espoused here. I think it's rather wise, myself.

    Mind if I go off on a little philosophical tangent? (I'm going anyway, so just ignore me if it pleases you.) There will always be things, whether they be consumer goods, people, sex acts, etc., that we would like to have/experience, and dwelling on how nice it would be if only we could have this/do that sets us up for a trip down a long and desolate road of disappointment and emptiness-- or that sad aching sensation you get whenever you conceptualize a void in your life. Even if you acquire that item, do that thing you've been longing to do, the novelty wears off and you begin craving something new and, presumably, better, or the transient pleasure ends and then you begin dwelling on how good it felt and how much you'd like to do it again...and in the midst of all this wishing and hoping and yearning, we overlook how beautiful life is, how many wonderful things we have to be thankful for, we miss out on fully enjoying this moment that's happening right now and will never happen again.

    I guess the point I'm trying to make is that physical gratification is so very fleeting, and craving it usually creates a vicious cycle of doing-wanting-doing-wanting, so you're always trying to get that sensation back again, devoting time and energy to making it happen, when you could be enjoying what you've got. And even if you were to try it and like it, let's say your wife decides she doesn't want to do it again, so then it creates even more misery because you wind up yearning for that forbidden fruit you've gotten a taste of. Or you enjoy it so much that you wind up fixated on it and lose perspective...Regular ol' sex is no longer good enough.

    Well, it's just something to think about, at any rate. You could try, perhaps once even, focusing so intently on what's happening during love-making, on all those wonderful sights, sounds, smells, sensations, that you may be surprised at just how fulfilling sex is when you're totally immersed in what's happening. Again, just a thought.
     
  5. HardRocker

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    Yes! What she said.
    Very insightful reality check, Bluesy.
     
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    Blusey said
    Go any time you wish its enlightening to say the least.

    Hiker:sf
     
  7. shy_david

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    Thanks for your thoughts.
     
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    OH David! I would sooooooooooo be into that. One of my partners has expressed a curious interest in exactly the same as your fantasy David.

    Oh my gosh! That is such a turn on for me, you have no idea!

    Hugss
     
  9. Bluesy

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    And here I was, fairly certain that everyone would think I was a nutjob for sharing my little tangent on a sex forum :lol Thanks for your kind words, guys :)
     
  10. Barbwire

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    WOW, easy there, loveit24/7! Geesh!

    shy_david, by seeing your post, I think you chose an inaccurate name for yourself. ;) I also wanna add that your post got me a bit excited. (gasp!) I say, go for it, if you try it and like it, it's not the end of the world. If you try it and you or your wife don't like it, it's still not the end of the world, ya dig? Just as long as you and your wife, and whomever the guy is you live out your fantasy with are all cool with it, I say, let your freak flag fly.
     
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    Yeah easy loveit...!!

    I felt quite aroused too reading that passage....

    One of my male friends frequently uses dildos on himself....and if he was to ask a guy to give him anal sex.....that would be cool....I even said to him, I wouldnt even mind watching lol....that is one of my fantasies!!!!

    I think pushing sexual boundaries is awesome......as long as nobody gets hurt....

    Yeah...its cool....go for it!!!
     
  12. loveit247

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    Why must I easy? I was not insulting anyone, he asked what women thought of it, I answered. It is no where near my thing and it actually turns me off the the point of making me quesy. But I did go on to say if it turns both of them on that is good and gave them some ideas on where to find it.

    I think I have been misunderstood. I am all for consenting adults doing whatever they want. PEACE! ; )