I seem to post a lot of questions on here! I blame it on youthful naivety and ignorance... Anyway, my inquiry this time is for both the men and women out there and a little bit more on the serious side... As I have become more and more adjusted to being sexually active and have been exploring sex/sexuality over the past year (remember, I only just started "adult relations" about a year ago) I have been finding myself having more and more fantasies that makes me personally feel uncomfortable... I call it my domination fantasies - wherein I am forcefully, totally, and none-too-politely with a partner; completely "running the show." The person I am with is always willing - I cannot stress that enough! However, these little mental movies that I've had off and on for years are now occurring less and less with (imaginary) female partners. In fact, probably a good 70+ percent of them seem to involve me having another man - usually an effeminate "little pretty boy" type, but not always - kiss, stroke, suck, and "take it" from me while I kiss/jerk him (but never suck or "take it" from him). It is NOT the same-sex factor that bothers me or makes me "feel weird" and uncomfortable. What is distressing to me about these fantasies is the fact that they are so domination/control/power oriented and violent - pushing that fine line of becoming a rape fantasy. The relationship in the fantasy is so one-sided and selfish and without respect - I am using my imaginary partner like some sort of living sex toy. In reality I would NEVER act like I do in these fantasies unless my partner and I had discussed it and knew limits/guidelines/etc before starting! This makes me feel unclean and like I'm some sort of predator-to-be or something and it has me very concerned. Is this a phase that some/all go through? Is it unique to me? Possibly just a random testosterone-induced temporary fetish?