[Ask a Guy] Turn on or turn off?

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  1. johnnyangel694u

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    You just started to have sex with a woman for the first time and she reaches down and starts playing with her clit. Would that turn you on or be an insult?
     
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    Why would that be a turn off or insult? Not all women can cum from PIV, they need clit stimulation to cum. I personally find it sexy.

    I'd be more "insulted" if after fucking her, she didn't cum despite all my efforts. I'd try harder the next time or ask what I could do or she could do to help things feel better for her.
     
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    The ultimate compliment to me.. It means she's lost in the moment , and totally comfortable with you as a lover.. And honestly I think it's hot as hell..
     
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    I think it would be a turn on. Of course I am use to someone that doesn't touch herself at all. At least that I know of. Lol.
     
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    Now I am more interested in Mitt fucking a woman.
     
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    Johnny, I donno where you come from but pretty much all the women in my life have done just as you describe and I fucking love it :)
     
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    I know you asked for male opinions, but I will throw my two cents in. First, I am so accustomed to touching it here, there and everywhere that it would be weird for me not to. Second, my husband thinks it's hot. We started out that way.
     
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    Pretty much exactly what I was going to say...
     
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    That has never, ever happened to me (with more than 200 women and growning) and I have asked a few of those women why, and got the same answer every time. They don't touch their clits with me because they find that distracting from the feelings they get from my penis inside them. So they just concentrate on feeling full. They don't want me to touch them either, of course.

    Some of these women were sexually adventurous, one had only one partner in their life (my wife) and one had only her husband and then me, and they all said the same thing.
     
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    oh yes a turn Onnnnnnnn :cool:
     
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    Definitely a turn on and thinking of ms Mittimer with a woman also a turn on
     
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    Oh yeah major turn on
     
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    Turn on and then I could suck on her fingers........ :p
     
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    The first time the boyfriend and I had sex, I played with him as much as I played with myself. He said it felt very busy down there. And he said it was a big turn-on. I've done it since then too.
     
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    Fine for a bit until I see it's always the same ...... show me what you need to be satisfied, give me a chance to learn and do it.
     
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    Not an insult at all, it is hot and normal
     
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    Some male egos seem to need the reassurance that THEY are uniquely satisfying a woman without the perceived "help" of the woman herself. Personally, I'm deep into the "if it feels good do it" mindset and if the lady wants to finger her clit or ass or pinch her/my nipples, pull my hair, pull her hair or whatever its all good. When much much much younger I sorta had that male mindset. Then I met a woman who was very AGGRESSIVE in her pursuit of pleasure and I found that to be an incredible turn on.
     
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    You guys are great! Very few women can orgasm from vaginal stimulation only. Most need clit stimulation. I need a man with strong fingers and a strong tongue to get me off. Just a hard cock is not enough.
     
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    I don't mind one bit. She usually does not flick the bean while we are fucking unless it is a real slow methodical pace. She will use the hitachi while I fuck her, that can get intense because you feel the vibes through her into your dick.
     
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    I love when she plays with her clit, before after or during sex
     
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