Trying to have sex for 1st time but cant get it up

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    Ok, i'm 20 years old, i'm a virgin :ugh ...

    But... i recently made a beautiful and nice girlfriend.

    We "dry sex" a lot but when she start giving me a blowjob ( first time 2 ), i loose my erection.

    Last night, we tried to have sex but the same thing happened... i was hard but when i put the condom on my penis, i lost my erection again...

    what's wrong with me !?!?!

    Am i 2 nervous ?

    Thank you.
     
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    It's common for virgins. You need to relax and take it slow.
     
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    ouff...

    thank you :D

    i'm releived ...
     
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    Anxiety issue for sure.
    Just take it slow with your gf.
    Spend time stimulating her without using your penis.
    If she is willing then ask her to stroke you off and see how he reacts.
    Happy experimentation.
     
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    If the problem persists, see your doctor about Viagra. That might get you past the hump, so to speak. No, I'm sure you don't need it, but it does help, and once you get in the groove you'll be fine.
     
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    I thought I was going to have a heart attack my first time. I don't know why, because my girlfriend and I messed around for over 3 years before we had intercourse, so it's not like seeing her naked was as stone-cold breathtaking as it used to be when I seen her naked for the first time. Yet when she laid down and I brought myself down, I was like uh... Thought I was going to pass out.

    It's definitely a mental thing. If you can convince yourself to just chill, take your time, and enjoy it, things will go so much better.

    Once you get going, just let it flow. You'll be fine after that.
     
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    Dear Famous,

    Congratulation on finding a girl friend and getting a blow job.

    New circumstances do create distractions. Trust is another factor. You may be wondering what your GF thinks, as you start to lose your erection, then you get more nervous, and you shrink even more.

    Try to create a situation where there is no rush or hurry, and privacy is assured. Try to enjoy your time together.

    Try to view Sex as an expression of Love, with caressing, caring and consideration being more important than particular outcomes. It sounds like you have a great GF, so just try to help her enjoy herself. If you focus on finding more ways of pleasing her, your erection may come back.
     
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    thank you guys :)

    i'm glad it's just a mental thing.

    We do dry sex a lot and i'm always hard though...maybe it's the tought of loosing my virginity that scares me lol
     
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    oh and by the way, when i tried to have sex, i had a urge to pee... i took like 2 big bottles of water one hour earlier and didnt went to the bathroom, that might of be the prob.
     
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    It's impossible for me to have sex if I need to pee.. well enjoyable sex anyways. I can still fuck, but I can't come, the pee needs to come out first I guess. And it kind of hurts after awhile too. Anyway, yes you should definitly pee first :p
     
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