Trust

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  1. HotForHoney

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    Very open/broad discussion about trust - in relationships, old/new; current/pasts. Building walls/taking them down.
     
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    Shy guy says it's hard for him to trust.
    I feel like I'm paying for someone else's mistakes.
     
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    It happens a lot,people get hurt and it's hard for them to trust others again
     
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    Yeah it's going to take time to get over the walls
     
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    Sometimes it takes time.
    I have trusted and been betrayed! It still hurts. I think I could trust again, but it's going to take time.
     
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    What made him not trust
     
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    I'm just going to keep being myself. Eventually he will have to accept it or we will move on.
     
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    I don't know.
     
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    Yeah what has been done is done so good luck with him getting over the past
     
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    That's shitty that he would not tell you what happened or why he don't trust
     
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    We didn't get to talk about it yet.
    Baby steps.
     
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    Once you have been burned it is hard to open up sweetie, my first wife, i found out in the end, had been fuckin my best friend for five years. Then after all that and i was divorced i met my second wife. She had been cheated on and vowed never to do it, then did. That was two years ago. In that time she has given me no reason to feel as if it has happened again, but if she were ever to not answer a question or refuse to give an answer i would have to wonder. But honestly even if we had not been able to work it out i dont think i ever would have trusted another. You can only give all for so long before you learn to hold back. It may not be you, but it takes time to get there after that.
     
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    How do you knock someone's walls down?
     
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    Give him time and hopefully when he's ready to talk he will. He will see you are different and will treat him differently to whoever had treated him badly in the past.
     
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    Be there and listen, just be you and show that you can be trusted and the walls will come down.
     
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    by them trusting you
     
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    You dont. You show theres something on the other side worth knocking them down for.
     
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    I like that
     
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    Anyone who re-partners after a negative relationship will always come with emotional baggage of some sort, myself included. Thankfully my OH has been more than understanding over my anxieties and emotional difficulties.

    Time and patience heal, but sometimes professional help is needed. Inevitably communication is key in any good relationship, but if there are trust issues you need to tread really gently and build on things gradually.
     
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    I agree. My current gf had a very bad previous relationship which involved lots of mental abuse (no physical abuse thankfully) especially when there was a child involved. It took her a long time to completely open up, but it was worth the wait as I could see that what was being held behind the wall was worth having. All i did was be there and hope I was worthy in her eyes of being let in :)
     
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