Trouble staying hard

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  1. Obsidian

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    I'm 20, my girlfriend and I have sex two or three times a week.

    I have a problem staying hard during sex. I can get hard during forplay. And we'll have sex. But if we change positions I'll lose my hard on. I'm extremely horny. And enjoy it. Just confused why that happens.

    Any ideas?

    Also, How can I last longer? I always last about 10 minutes. Which is good enough to make her orgasm, but I'd like to last 30-45 minutes minimum. Any help?
     
  2. nurseharley

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    Maybe you need to keep whacking it when you change positions? Or have her do it

    As for lasting longer, change it up some, once you know you're getting close just slow it down a bit. Take little breaks and eat her pussy, etc
     
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    When you change position and lose your erection, does it stay lost? Can some more foreplay bring it back? Think of it as midplay.

    Also, talk to your girlfriend. She might tell you that ten minutes is enough and she doesn't need you to keep going after she's had an orgasm.
     
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    This is what Viagra is designed for, to keep you hard once you get there. I know many people who use it as "sexual vitamins," and it's always helped me to have one more orgasm that I may not have had. They cost about $3 per pill if you're insured, and any doctor will give you a prescription. By the way, they don't work for women.
     
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    A 20 year old kid does not need viagara. It's for 65 year old men with ED. He needs to learn self control which will come with practice.
     
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    You dont need it, but its fun to play with :) Its not like she's ganna complain either..
     
  7. Trond

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    I have had a similar problem at times. It's as if small distractions can make it go soft very easily, and this is relatively new (I would stay hard longer before). Luckily, I normally react quite quickly to touch, so it's not too difficult to get it back up. Oddly enough, my orgasms are also stronger than before. Go figure.

    Trying to relax is probably the most important thing though. If you can get hard again easily, then it's nothing to worry about.
     
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    It's almost certainly psychological, especially at that age, and I don't recommend oral ED medications! The solution is to stay focussed, keep positive, and re-assure yourself you are going to stay hard. If you feel negative thoughts encroaching, chase them away. Literally do that: chase the negative thoughts away.

    You don't need to last 30 minutes: most women get (a) bored (b) sore and (c) wish for him to come so it's over. About 10 minutes is ideal, congratulations.
     
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    i agree.For me sex lasts about45 min. but that is counting oral. I can spend from 5 min down on her to 30 min, depending on how many orgasms she can handle that particular time.
     
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    No one's mentioned physical fitness. How in shape are you to begin with? When I reach the point of, "Holy shit, this position's starting to get difficult, let's change." I'm usually at the point of exhaustion. That's a real boner killer right there. Do you change when you're exhausted?