Trouble Climaxing With Partner

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  1. chasenwilliam

    chasenwilliam New Member

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    Well, I have been in my first serious relationship for around 8 months. We have gradually become more sexual and had sex for the first time around 2 months ago. However, I have never been able to climax due to just sex, whether it be manual, oral, or vaginal. I always have to kind of "finish myself off" in order to reach orgasm. This is causing a lot of stress for me because I am able to make my partner climax multiple times during a session, but I am lucky to climax once. Any ideas on how to help me, either mentally or physically? Any types of lube that I can buy that might add some stimulation during intercourse?


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    chasenwilliam New Member

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    come on ya'll. someone have any advice?
     
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    It's probably a mental thing. The mind is a powerful thing. Try and relax, and just enjoy the moment. Try changing around different sex positions. Personally, when I am having a hard time climaxing, I switch it up to doggy style.

    The only physical thing I could think of is the condom on too tight?
     
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    could the tightness of the condom really be that big of a deal? because i have the same problem during oral and manual. i am really beginning to think it is a mental thing, too.
     
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    Well, I've been with women that weren't good at using their hands or mouths....so you could rule out those forms of sex. Usually, guys don't have a problem getting off with vaginal sex, so condom tightness could come into play. Also, do you drink a lot of alcohol before you have sex? If so, this could be part of the problem too.