Sorry I haven't been posting more on this site. I usually just ghost around the board looking at stuff and getting information on various sex stuff. So im hoping since im a newb here I can still get some good advice. This might be a long summary really but please read. I'm a 19 year old male who was a virgin until about a month ago. When I state virgin i mean the most I ever did with a girl was french kiss and grab her butt. I have seen a lot of porn so im not unfamiliar with sex, and i think i have a good understanding of how it all works. I met a girl through a mutual friend and we began talking online and on the phone. We hit it off really well. We started talking for about two weeks before I finally met her. We had a lot of sexual tension a few days before we met so we kinda rushed and had Sex the first time we met. Since I was a virgin I thought I would have been nervous. The only thing I was worried about was what she thought of my penis since no one besides me ever saw it. That wasn't the issue at all. The problem that occured was I wasn't getting really hard. Some how we managed to have intercourse with my half hard penis but I never came close to achieving orgasm. I was wearing a condom and thought that maybe it had something to do with my lack of erection. So i bought a thinner kind and it felt slightly better but still no end result. I have to wear one because she can't take the pill and its safer. I don't want a child this young yet. That was the first encounter. The second encounter was this past weekend. I didn't even make it that far. I was hoping Oral would have perked me up a bit but it really only made me softer. The only way I achieved orgasm was when she gave me a handjob which took a while to get me off too. Its not like my girlfriend is unattractive or bad at this. I enjoy the feelings of touching and what she's doing but I just can't seem to get really into it. I feel like neutral during the whole thing. She is getting really into it and I feel lame since I'm not that into it. I never get the feeling of me being horny around her. I don't know if its because Im so use to not feeling like that around girls or what. I have no problems pleasing her but I just can't seem to keep an erection. I'm only 19 and idk what to do. She feels that its her fault and that she's doing something wrong. She is willing to work with me but i just don't know how. I know I can get off but something just isn't right for me. I'm hoping sex isn't always going to be like this. I feel awkward losing my erection when I shouldn't be. Any help at all would be great. If i need to clear anything up as well, just let me know.