Too tight and pleasure

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  1. AGFUNK

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    So the last few times we have had sex it took a while for it to be really enjoyable for me. I was wet, turned on and my husband was great but something was different. Apparently I am way tighter than I was before I gave birth. I guess I did a lot of kegels and they worked. Now it's not as enjoyable for me anymore. I have cum once every time but never satisfied. There's nothing that my husband is doing wrong. He's awesome, it's just me. I've been tightening and pushing during sex and it's awesome but it just takes a while to get completely into it because it's uncomfortable at the beginning. By the time I get really into it he can't hold back much longer. I'm used to cumming at least twice every time we have sex. Now I'm not. Plus we have a limited amount of time each time so idk. Anything to help get into it faster?
     
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    Maybe more foreplay, a different type of lube or maybe you need to play a but yourself.

    Are you relaxed?
     
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    We have gone thru a bit of this lately... Mostly because there have been a few times that she hasn't lubricated like she normally does. We're not sure why, maybe menopause..... She normally likes things rough and hard but sometimes I have to be careful and make sure she's ready ... A lubricant has helped greatly when needed.. Maybe you just need a few extra minutes foreplay before he enters you?...
    And yes I'm a guy, so I hope I'm not overstepping my bounds here.:)
     
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    We don't have to use lube since I'm usually soaked. When it's too wet I can't feel anything. But I don't think that's the problem because I'm not that wet. I'm pretty sure I'm relaxed. I don't get the chance to play with myself because I'm usually taking care of our son. We only get the chance to have sex usually when he's asleep or we will put a colorful movie on for him which only gives us a few minutes rarely longer. But I'm usually really worked up for sex. He usually licks me first, plays with my clit with his fingers, talking, etc. Maybe we will try some more see if it changes anything.

    You're not overstepping your bound 12bb. I welcome everyone's comments:)
     
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    Maybe hubby can look after HIS son for a few mins so you can prep?
     
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    He would but our son is usually attached to my boob before he falls asleep. That's the only way I can get him to sleep usually. But sometimes like now he will fall asleep in his swing but hubby is sleeping now:( I always try to get him to sleep before we have sex so that maybe we will have more time. He only tolerates his bouncy chair for about ten to fifteen minutes. I'll see what he can do about watching him.
     
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    Look, you're still in transition from pre-pregnancy, to pregnancy, to delivery, to postpartum, to new baby, to older baby. The situation will settle down, the older the baby gets, and the longer it's been since delivery. You'll have to make time for yourselves

    If I remember, hubby works a lot, and needs to decompress. I'm just trying to come up with some suggestions. How would he take it if you woke him? Would you be willing to masturbate to relieve some of the sexual tension you're feeling? Would this satisfy you, or does only intercourse do it for you? Would you be willing to masturbate to completion the first time you need to cum, with him awake and with you, then let him have intercourse to get you off a second time. Again, I'm just trying to be creative.

    By the way, glad to hear the kegels did some good tightening you up.
     
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    He doesn't mind when I wake him up, but he tends to stay awake after so I have to wait until he's slept ar least five hours. I would masturbate to take the edge off, I just have to find time. House work usually trumps that. Masturbation doesn't really satisfy me only works for a little bit depending on how turned on I am. Plus the orgasms I have with my husband are much stronger than by myself. I could masturbate with him helping me (takes fifteen minutes for me to get off by myself).
     
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    I got our son to fall asleep in his swing so I decided to have some me time and got myself off watching porn. Then I woke hubby up with a hand/blowjob and rode him till I came twice and got him off. That's the first time in a long time that we've had sex twice in one day. It still hurt initially and I think I figured out why. I have a slight vaginal prolapse and I'm pretty sure that's what's causing the pain. Sucks. Hopefully more kegels will help and I'll try to use some lube.
     
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    Easy fix here as alway "keep it simple stupid" advice; lubricant !
     
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    Not neccesarily. I will try the lube but it doesn't guarantee anything. I've never had this problem before. Never had a prolapse before.
     
  12. alwaystry

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    My lady and I have had the same issue,lube was not the answer. Honestly I our case we just have tohave more sex, six the baby ,and before while she was very pregnant, we have not had nearly the sex we used to ,life gets in the way . But when we have streaks of good sex each time got more enjoyable for her. She doesn't masturbate but ifyou do I suggest a toy to insert not just the clit.
     
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    Completely didn't think of that. Guess I should use my vibrator then without the vibration. Thanks.
     
  14. alwaystry

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    Lol was that sarcastic? With my girl lube made it worse because it slipped right in but the walls were not ready to expand so I have to enter very slow,once its all the way in, we start slow and work up to a nice pace. If we did it later or the next day it was easier
     
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    No not sarcastic at all. I really didn't think of it.
     
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    We tried again. I was turned on used a ton of lube and it still hurt. I can literally feel my vaginal walls moving in and out. Took an hour and a half to get off. That was with three different positions and variations of those plus masturbating and my husband finally getting me off with a toy after half an hour. I'm going to have to see my doctor and look into something that I can put up there to correct this. This fucking sucks.
     
  17. alwaystry

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    Yeah,ouch sorry. I hope you get it figured out and everything is okay.