Too Much Porn

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by TeethsoWhite, Jul 17, 2007.

  1. TeethsoWhite

    TeethsoWhite New Member

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    so... im pretty active and im in an open relationship, so on average im having sex at least 18 times a week :) but im young and the few hours im not around any girls, i tend to get bored and wind up looking up some of my ol' favorite porn sites. Sometimes this is good, but other times, when i have sex 3 or more times in the same day, it tends to leave me.. not so hott, and when the girl finds out i looked at the porn and that that is the reason i didnt perfom, well... :yell Its not so much that i need to masturbate, its just that i enjoy the porn lol does anyone else have this same problem? i just feel like its a personal thing, and while it isnt very detrimental to my sex life, i would still like to see if there are more porn-addicts such as myself, and if this causes some problems in their relationships
     
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    I look at porn quite a bit; probably once a day or so, give or take. Usually, the more I look at it, the more it builds up, and at times I'll perform a little better if I've looked at porn recently. No matter how much porn I look at though, if I've had enough sex, there's not much that'll revive it other than time. In any case, porn certainly doesn't diminish my desire.
     
  3. Fliteskates

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    I think porn is only a problem when it interferes with a relationship.

    If a man (or even a woman) is ignoring their partner to watch/look at porn, it is an addiction.

    I watch some porn if my g/f is away. I honestly never watched or looked at any while she is with me. Never had the desire.

    I watch porn when she is gone to get off, because I don't really do it for myself lol

    Unless I wake up and take care of old morning glory, I can't just lay there and get myself hard.. nothing agt. Rosie Palm and her five sisters, but whatever.

    I think all guys would agree you can't go for more than a few days without getting some kind of release, so you gotta find a way, or it does start to hurt.

    I even find myself when I'm watching porn, observing what the actors are doing, and getting ideas for new positions and such for me and my g/f. I have gotten tons of good ideas that me and my girl love from watching porn.

    Porn starts to bore me if I watch too much of it though, I find.
     
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    Er...you have sex 18 times a week and in the ten minutes(i can only imagine that's how much time you have in between love sessions) you're not having sex, you need further sexual stimulation?
     
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    i defintely agree with fliteskates. porn is ok if your not ignoring your priorities
     
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    I've actually had a bit of training in this area, and an addiction is technically defined as any behavior that you are compulsively driven to engage in, despite whatever adverse effects it may have on your life. It's usually progressive (you're driven to engage in it more frequently and/or get involved in more extreme forms of your addiction). If you feel you need to look at porn when you masturbate, you've got a problem. If you look at it excessively, you've got a problem. What is considered an "excessive" amount of porn is highly controversial.

    Seriously! I've gotten the impression that sex is something of an unhealthy obsession for the poster, but that's just a feeling. I could be wrong.
     
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    So, every guy in america has a problem?
     
  8. Bluesy

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    Maybe you would prefer to masturbate with it, but can you have a good jerk-off without it? That is the question. If you're dependent on it, it's an addiction. If you can go without it (there's a difference between desiring something and needing to have/do it), you're normal.
     
  9. TeethsoWhite

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    [Seriously! I've gotten the impression that sex is something of an unhealthy obsession for the poster, but that's just a feeling. I could be wrong.]

    i dont think it is in any way unhealthy lol... 18 times a week is about 2 times a day, not a big number. and between those two times, if she spends the night and we go in the morning, that is a few hours of free Porn time in between about 11 am to 8 pm... plenty of time to be bored enough to hit the keyboard
     
  10. Fliteskates

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    I strongly disagree about what you consider to be an addiction.

    Males are visual creatures, and looking at porn will stimulate most of us more easily than if we where to just lay there using just our imagination while masturbating.

    I've never had the desire to look at it more frequently, or watch more extreme porn.

    It has never had an adverse affect on my life as well.

    In fact, the more I watch of it, the more I become bored of it.

    If my g/f is away, things build up. And nature forces you to release the sperm buildup. If you don't do it yourself, your body will do it for you (in the form of a 'wet dream'). It also is a known medical fact that it is unhealthy for your prostate to continously allow sperm to buildup, without releasing it. This is the main reason I try to masturbate on a regular basis when my g/f is away, even on days I don't feel like it.

    Masturbating is a chore to me, but it must be done. I want to get it done and over with, and go on with my day. It isn't something I sit there and look fwd to like I do with sex.

    So do I lay there for half an hour using my imagination to get off, or do I watch porn for 10 minutes to get off?

    The choice isn't that hard.
     
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    I admit when I read 18 times a week my first thought was "Quit Bragging.". Time does that to you, you tend to forget how it was when you were young. Then I remembered a time I was living with two women in Jacksonville and 18 times was not unusual at all. I was horny all the time and masturbated once a day every day at least. My thoughts on this is if you are functioning OK why worry? Enjoy.
     
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    I guess i posted more because i was curious to see if anybody else was in the same situation. Having the said amount of sex results in me not "needing" to masturbate, but more so doing it because its basically just a habit? lol Now I have a post-it note beside my computer reminding me, "Dont look at porn or i will KILL YOU!" from the lady, so thats keeping me at bay :bow
     
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    I guess that solves the problem! :lol
     
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    i guess i look at porn alot too. i really need to find a girl friend porn does get boring after a while
     
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    Excessive Porn and Masturbation.

    I am no longer young, so I try to save my load for my wife.

    I try to avoid starting to look at porn, or starting to fondle myself. If I don't get started then I don't have to worry about stopping.

    The term addiction implies a lack of control. Porn and masturbation may involve some lack of control. NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming, is a therapeuic approach to changing bad habits. NLP theory is that ther is a sequence of enviroment circumstances and feelings. By studying the sequence that you want to change, you can often find a place in the sequence you can easily change, and thereby change your habit.

    Search NLP or NLP practioners. There are NLP boards. Also seach hypnosis. The value of hypnosis is not to really change the habit, but rather to find out the sequences of environment and feelings. Sometimes the feelings are represented in short mental movie clip, a Sub-Modality, that brings a range of feelings to mind in a split second. So Hypnosis sometimes gives you clues of he sequences of feelings.

    It depends how much it is a problem for you, how much effort you want to put into chenging your schedules of enjoying life. When I was young, I would masturbate to good porn beffore I got out of bed in the morning, then I was set for the day.

    I have been thinking about how to change my habit of ofen letting my load go with my wife when I get a good dry hump going. I would like to wait longer, until my wife is hotter, and ready for insertion. Last night I kept my rod on one of her things, and kept kneading her large muscles, Back, Neck, releasing her endorphins. I avoided getting into my dry hump mode, and just kept by rod hard against one of her thighs, and sucking her nipples. After a while I was suspecting she was ready, but still kept up foreplay. Soon she said, "Get the lubes" so then is was heaven.

    So I changed my approach from pumping as soon as I could get it going, to later.


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    Gotcha
     
  17. backsidefun

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    Moderation my friend, haha.
     
  18. P1MP1NJ

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    personal preference as long as your gf is all good about it lol