too much anal

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  1. sarahandnick

    sarahandnick New Member

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    Hello all

    Im in a steady relationship and we have lots of excellent sex! We are both getting really into anal and want to do more. But my girlfiends abit worried about it cause her problems

    After a while when she is really relaxed and into it she starts to gape abit. I take it this is normal but ive heard horror stories of porn stars who have problems later in life

    We don't do it much, ie we've only had full blown anal intercourse 5-6 times but want more!

    Nick
     
  2. ChevyMan

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    Nick that is what i want to do with my gf. how does it feel



    my name is also nick hahaha how
     
  3. sarahandnick

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    Hi Nick

    It feels good! Its diferent and i wouldn't choose it over conventional intercourse but we both really enjoy.

    Just make sure you work up to it real slow and use lots and lots of lube. She likes anal attention as part of sex even if it isn't full blown intercourse.

    Nick!
     
  4. heelfetish

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    So long as you continue to use proper relaxation techniques, lots of artificial lubrication, and don't insert monster-sized objects (double anal, anal fisting, ginormous dildos, baseball bats, bowling pins, etc) you should be fine. I would, however, suggest not having anal sex daily. Once every week or 2 should be fine. And make sure you are both sober and drug-free. You don't want other influences affecting your good judgment.

    Much of the horror stories you hear of are from people that take things too far. Huge objects, grossly extended sex times (hours and hours without break for the camera, damn viagra!), poor preparation and improper relaxation, and abusive pounding leading to damage to the sphincter muscles. How often in porn do you see real couples in love having loving sex? Most of the time it's just wham, bam, thank you ma'am. And the anus just doesn't respond well to that kind of abuse.

    Take it slow, caring, and gentle. And enjoy what nature gave you!!!
     
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    Thats what i thought, just wanted to ask (makes her feel better). Was only using porn stars to illustrate my point, our sexlife is good and nothing like porn (thank god!).

    Thanks

    ps bowling pins!?
     
  6. heelfetish

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    Sorry, had to think of humorous, oversized, slightly dong-shaped, everyday items. :lol

    You both are very lucky to discover the joy in anal. I wish you the best of luck, and want to express just how envious I am. :)
     
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    Your average poo is about the size of a dick, & you do that every day....
     
  8. heelfetish

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    I've used that analogy before, but it was pointed out (quite correctly) that you aren't sliding that poo in and out of your anus for what can be extended periods of time. But I still stand by my opinion that anal sex, when done properly, is safe.
     
  9. Barbwire

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    Yeah, its the in and out thrusting that's hard on an anus as well as the stretching of the spincter, so you can't really compare anal sex to taking a dump.