told my wife i do wank

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  1. justaniceguy

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    my wife asked me a direct question yesterday and I got in the shit putting it bluntly....I love and totally enjoy my wife and sex with her but the question she asked is do I wank?........Well I said yes sometimes....She went totally balistic at me saying I needed to have sex all the time and that I didnt enjoy her........Not true at all for me, I just like to jack off in private once in a while.......No wonder why I come on this site so I can let off steam.............What do you ladies think about your man if he told you he did the same?
     
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    Of course you wank and so does every other guy and many females also.
    Nothing wrong or strange with a self induced uncomplicated quick release of sexual tension.
    You better wisen up your wife on the subject and besides even though you are married does not mean she owns you!
     
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    Ibushwalker, yer she needs to get a grip, tell me about it, been together now for 18 years.......Mind you she did open up about something, she was interested in a nudist beach!!....mmm...
     
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    Asking the ladies on this forum ? it will not be representative of most women I've ever known outside this forum....women here will say " of course, have at it, it's a healthy release " .....but in my travels, 75% of the women I've known in " the real world" would respond much as your wife did...questioning why you need so much sexual release..." Can't you even go a couple of days without needing sex ? " isn't having sex twice a month enough for you? " there are more important things in life than sex you know" .....blah, blah, blah,......
     
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    Well I have known my guy wanks,but to be honest,it is definitely what has caused some of his erectile dysfunction issues.
    We just went two weeks without seeing each other,and he agreed not to masturbate at all in that time.

    Tonight...hard as a rock without any help from cialis and when he came it was a geyser!
    So,nothing wrong with masturbation unless it interferes with your sex life.
    If you can't get turned on unless you are watching porn or playing with yourself,then there is a problem.Obviously that doesn't seem to be the case with you because you said you are still able to have sex,but any guy who can't get it up during sex may want to rethink his masturbatory habits.
     
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    I dont like it cuz it makes sex w him less enjoyable when he has already wanked off on his own. But since we lack the time to have sex, I wouldn't be upset. Sometimes we make a game out of it. Make her feel included in some way. Tell her to send u a pic, vid, story, whatever for u to use so it still feels to her like you're enjoying her even when she isn't around.
     
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    I have a hard time understanding the view point of an issue with masturbation. To us it is just a natural release. My wife and I are very open and masturbate solo and together. It’s cool so long as it does not interfere with or replace “Normal” sex. I’ve encountered women who think if a guy whacks off it is a form of cheating and also know a guy who went absolutely ballistic because he found his wife had a dildo. I think there is some insecurity in those views.
     
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    I haven't jerked off in probably 5 years. I made a decision that all I wanted was my wife and that I did not want to jerk off alone and fantasize about another. I did not tell her till recently.

    She had made a commitment to me that "No" was never an answer to my request for sex.
     
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    I'm sort of the same with my guy. If he's wanked within a day or so before us having sex he often can't finish, so then I get annoyed because I feel a little deprived. Otherwise I have no issue with it and I never have.

    75% seems rather high to me. I wonder if that's a regional thing.
     
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    I don't have a single friend that doesn't masturbate Oo. Males and females alike, some more often than others regardless of being in a relationship or not... To me at least is seems like a VERY common thing, but maybe people are just more open and carefree about it over here? Only one girl I know said she didn't do it, but at a later time her slightly drunk boyfriend could reveal she was lying so... Yeah idk, personal experience is that 95% of people mastubate, the rest are lying about it ^^.

    Has never affected my sex life negatively. If I have something "special" planned with my partner I'll hold off for as long before as I know about it because it's such a great release when the body hungers for it! I don't masturbate more than 1-5 times a month on average though, usually it's 1-3 weeks between sex and masturbation.
     
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    No offense, your wife needs a reality check
     
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    I get more angry if my husband hides it then if he does it. I masturbate, often. Even next to him while he's asleep. It's what I do. It's natural. I would be a hypocrite if I told him he couldn't masturbate just the same.
     
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    I walked in on my husband while he was jacking off......to say I was shocked would be an understatement. It embarrassed him and he got pissy with me and it went from there.....I'm with Mitt.....if he had told me he did it.....I believe we both would have handled it different.
    I kinda understand your wife's side of this......I felt that I wasn't satisficing him in some way. So I went and talked to him.....let him know if he need something more I would be willing........I have to give him credit for being smooth with his answer.........he told me, that I satisfied him to much......that sex with me was so hot and such a turn on, that he had to jack off to keep from cumming in 5 mins when he was with me.....he only wanted to make sure I got my pleasure first......:eyes.....looking back....total bullshit......you guys just like it.
    But hey, if you want to use that line with your wife....feel free....
     
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    I just could not believe my wife making a big deal about it, she asked me a direct question and I told her the truth, surely thats what marriage is all about isnt it, to be open and honest to the hills with each other......I aint convinced, its peed me off to say the least.....I feel now I cannot be as open as I would like with her now, thats a shame.....If she stayed surprised but not make my day a living hell then I would appreciate her view..
     
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    You're in the land of sexual awareness ...I'm not, unfortunately...:ugh
     
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    I seriously only do it about once a week because I stay up too late on the Internet. Usually when I finally get to bed, I'm too tired to be bothered. Before I got Internet access I couldn't sleep without giving myself an orgasm.
     
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    My wife was upset before but come on, as a adult, I can't even play with myself? I did that since I was 13 before and it is just part of my grow up experience. I just cannot accept that I cannot with play with myself. So people think young boy masturbate is normal, and a growup married man mastubation is wrong? It is a different kind of sexual feeling that it is nonsense to compare having sex with wife. I am super satisfied with my wife but I enjoy masturbate once in a while. My wife is ok now btw.
     
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    You know, I am glad you told her, because it's really pretty damn normal for a lot of us. My hope for you is that once the dust settles that maybe she will feel less threatened. I'm wondering what it is that she is really afraid of. If only she would come around to the point that she would even like to watch....
     
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    I am more then sure, that you are doing it, because your sexual life is not so active. ! If you were satisfied, you wouldn't do it..And the next issue you could do it is because you have some personal needs, like having other womans...
     
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    I'm going to call bullshit on this. Flat out.

    I am EXTREMELY satisfied with my sexual relationship with my husband. I get it when I want it and he gets it when he wants his too. That's that.

    However, I like to fuck myself without any help once in a while because lets face it, I know my body and know how to please myself. I want to feel THAT feeling sometimes, not just sex.