Sorry for the stupid-ass title. I was wondering if it is better to be a virgin for life, or to only have sex once, or a few times with one person and then never again... The saying: "It's better to have loved than lost than to never have loved at all" is ok I guess, but I think it would resent it if it were true for sex. I'm 18 and virgin, I only had one girlfriend ever in jr. high, for a few months. I aint ever had just female friends. I was aquainted with a few, but you know the typical highschool crap. Females are soft and nurturing, and I couldn't be as good as they are, but they are so picky. Anyway, if it turns out that someone is a late bloomer, should they try for it and see if they can get a women? But when she leaves and lets them go, the guy would just think about her the rest of his life until he dies. Provided she was his only one. I'm skeptic of one night stands cause of this same reason. Most guys wouldn't mind havin a girlfriend/wife, but theres so many guys that aren't that great when it comes to evolutionary fitness and a womens sexual selection. Not everone is a hunk or buff guy. So if a guy like myself or a 40 year old virgin wants female, should he try the regular methods of getting to know her first and all that stuff? I always thought it in vain. It takes so long and time/energy invested that if it never materialized, it would be ironic like those dumb ass movies at the end. Without women, guys just f*** shit up and kill stuff and each other, but women are frustrating sometimes and cause intense rage in males as well, a lot of frustration. He could choose to go out and get want he wants, or give up all desire.......the latter is a hardcore though guy choice and I don't know if its possible for most normal people. Guys desire romance kinda I think, or at least it makes em happy. I wouldn't mind it. But if the desire is in vain and taxes the body and mind living alone and dreaming of women/sex. Guys are strong and stuff, but they can't control the universe, so its kinda up to fate, depends on how one argues. A life without knowing a womens warmth, or knowing what its life and being freezer burned after she moves on? It is difficult for me to understand. Any thoughts?