Tips on Lasting Longer

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  1. TimsTheMan

    TimsTheMan New Member

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    Something that's really getting on my nerves lately is the fact that after about 10 minutes of sex I can't restrain myself any longer and I cum against my will. I find the same thing when i'm masturbating to porn, within minutes I feel like cumming and I actually have to look away and think of something revolting, and even then, I come so close it hurts.

    Now keep in mind i'm not exactly a veteran, i've only had sex twice. Is lasting longer just a matter of experience, the more you do it the longer you can hold off? Or am I doing something wrong?

    Thanks for any replies.
     
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    Go to a general practitioner MD and get a prescr. for 10mg/day of Paxil. That will lengthen your endurance by alot. I think more experience and you will learn to hold it longer but I could not. The Paxil is great for it.
     
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    Thanks for the reply sdavis. I just realized there's an almost identical thread as this in the techniques forum, sorry for the repeat.

    I'll look into those pills and let you know what happens ;)
     
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    For one thing - take it slowly. You should be able to detect when you are close to orgasm without going too far (either during sex or masturbation). When you get to that point, stop and relax a bit, then resume activity. Eventually, you will learn to control it.
     
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    10 minutes isn't too bad. You are right more experience and age does make you last longer but it could take a lot of experience. Best bets are jerking off an hour prior or going a 2nd time. When you have an empty tank you last longer. Also see other thread where we talk about delay creams/condoms (http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=3890
     
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    While a side effect of Paxil that Sdavis experiences is delayed ejaculation/orgasm, that's not really what the medicine was created for. I urge you to check the side effects and purposes of the drug before you ask your physician for it. Lasting ten minutes a shot at a young age and early into your experiences is not what I would consider a responsible reason for taking an anti-depressant which also has some pretty hefty side effects. Just my two cents.
     
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    Be patient the more experience you gain the more likely you will understand your emotions and learn to control yourself. Not sure drugs is the answer for you....its the age old issue of patience.
     
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    In my opinion, if you've only had sex twice and can last for 10 minutes, you don't have a problem. You'll last longer as you grow in experience and age. For now, just try to satisfy your partner orally before insertion.
     
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    I agree, it is an 'off-lable' use fo the drug and I fought getting on it with the wife for a long time, but in the end, I decided I better try it atleast, and it has been successful for premature ejac with no noted side effects. 10mg is a VERY LOW dose. It is generally prescribed at a higher dose, say 30-40 mg as an anti-depressant. Again, I would rather not take it but when I was only lasting a few secs and ruining sex, I decided I had to atleast try it to appease her. It would not be my first choice for thsi young man, but if your sex life is suffering beyond hope, you gotta try something........
     
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    Wow, only had sex twice and lasted 10 minutes? I didnt get close to ten minuteds the first two times I had sex lol.
     
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    I agree SDAVIS. I'm just looking from the other side, as someone who's had a diagnosis of depression and tried Paxil to help...... I remember coming off of Paxil... and earnestly thinking I was going to die. My heart hurt! Ugh. Don't just stop taking them med, wean yourself off of it slowly, no matter the dose.
     
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    I once read, in a professional journal no less, of an exercise to help with that. The man lays on his back and his wife or significant other starts doing a "hand job" on him. He is to tell her (or him in some cases, I suppose) when he is feeling like he is about to "cum". At that time, the hand job doer wraps a finger around that part of the penis just below the glans ("tip") and places pressure on the urethra. Allegedly, this will stop the ejaculation. After a while, one the man on his back has "settled down", so to speak, the "hand jobber" starts whacking him off again repeating the pressure which stops the ejaculation. This goes on several times and is repeated over the course of several days. Oh, by the way, each day, at the end of the exercise, the hand jobber allows the "handjobee" to finally cum! Unless, of course, the handjobber is a sadist in which case they may get into the torture of it ("Beat me! Beat me! Beat me!," pleaded the masochist! "NO!", sneered the sadist!)! Anyway, allegedly this exercise is supposed to build up staying power and teach the handjobee to better control their ejaculations - either that or drive them insane, I suppose. Oh well! Just trying to be helpful! When I first had sex with a girlfriend back in college, in order to try to keep myself from cumming too soon, I tried visualizing doing football drills under my old football coaches! However, I had to abandon that vision because it nearly made me lose my erection so I started watching my girlfriends boobies bounce and went ahead into orgasm!
     
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    Couple years ago I was dating a guy who was 28 at the time. During our first "sex night" together he came REALLY fast, I mean like in under two minutes . We tried again a few minutes later when he"recovered" and he Lasted much longer. So maybe the"emptying the tank" advice might be the way to go. Otherwise, just relax.As others have said, it will get better with experience. Good luck:)
     
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    There are many reasons why you may not last long...but there are some products that may help you last longer. Many sex stores sell a kind of lubricant that will sort of desensitize you for a little while to make you last longer...you may want to look for something like that. I have a link for a store but I cannot put it on here yet...email me at ****************** and I will get the link to you...

    Please do not use the public forums to post personal information such as email addresses. Use the PM function for that, thank you.
     
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    Prior planning prevents piss poor performance. Dude, reconsider taking any drugs. Clean out your pipes an hour before you go have sex. Nervousness can go either way. If you're nervous, you can either have trouble ejaculating or ejaculate too early. Relax and have fun.

    One thing you could do, is work on some aerobic exercises. My gf has gone nuts since I really hit the jump rope and started running more regularly. Anything you do to increase your stamina in other areas can increase your stamina sexually as well.
     
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    Quoted For Truth - I would have been proud of ten minutes the first two times I had sex. I can still remember the first time my lover had an orgasm from vaginal intercourse before I finished - one of the most intense feelings I ever had.
     
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    just give it some time, while mast. when you get to the edge just reallllly slow down or stop for a sec regain your composure, then start again, also i agree that if you give her oral first, she will be happy, and make sure that you have recently "got off" before you engage anything
     
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    ^^^^^^^My answer exactly.^^^^^^^

    If you plan to have sex and you are afraid you will not last long enough
    then beat one off a few hours beforehand.
    but if she is new to sex too then 10 minutes may make her sore.
     
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