Sometimes I figure my wife is not in the mood, so I don't try to approach her. I am feeling that I should have some low intensity approaches, to see if I can get something going, rather than presume I am going to get a rejection. My productivity in getting personal and family chores/tasks done has been at a lower level than reasonable. So I am feeling I should put some excitement in my life. So if my wife has not been in the mood, often I have just been waiting till the next night. That is OK for the marriage, but my productivity is shot because then I just lie around for an extra amount of time, wishing I had gotten some intamacy the night before. Sometimes my wife is up, when I get home, sometimes she is reading, sometimes watching TV, sometimes dozing, sometimes fairly sound asleep. Usualy, my wife will leave the house before I have to leave to go to work. So I am thinking of creating an urgency, of the following logic. I need to get wife going, or let her know I tried, because tomorrow morning, when she has left for work, I am going to get myself straight, so I can get thigns done. I try to save my jizz for my wife, and I bveliefve it is a good idea. But passing up getting out a hot DVD, is cramping my productivity. Resentment is part of lowered productivity. I don't like to get rejected, and I don't like to piss off the old lady. But, I am seeing it is important not to let the sun set on my hard penis. So I intend to make more concerted efforts to seduce my wife, so that she has give me a clear rejection, which is my ticket to a hot DVD the next morning. I searched this relationship board and did not find much on timing. So that is my new principle of marriage, If I don't get laid, I should be sure I get a clear rejection, so I have a free pass to jack-off the next morning.