time 4 sex

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by mcbean, Mar 1, 2006.

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  1. mcbean

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    So my question is on average how long do people wait before having sex in a relationship?

    Sure u have people who go full out on the first date, then theres people who wait a while (x amount of weeks/months) and then u get people who dont have sex till their married.

    of course i understand this average wont be comply with all relations but still a ball park time would be nice
     
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    I have read that one should wait at least until the 4th date before engaging in any sexual activity. I guess it gives you time to get to know a bit more about a person before being 'swept away' on the physical stuff.
    ... but what would I know. I've been out of the dating loop for almost 3 decades!
     
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    i havnt had sex yet i wouldnt know
     
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    I guess it all depends on if you knew the person before-hand,then probably the first date,if not ,the first week.But I guess everyone is different.I know some people who've waited a month.
     
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    With my late wife it was... oh, maybe 5 minutes. I think that was about right; any quicker and we'd have been thrashing about in the hotel lobby or hallway.

    With others it's ranged from 5 minutes to a year. My feeling on it is, if you know you're going to do it, just do it. (Like Nike says.) If you're not sure for a year, you probably shouldn't do it at all.
     
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    This is true :)!
     
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    the very first night my man and i met we were all over eachother and sex was the ONLY thing we wanted... but we didnt.... we had been romantically involved for about 3 months when we finally did, he refused to put pressure on me, or even to succumb to my advances, he has since said that he wanted verbal acknowledgement that I was ready because he didnt want to rush anything
     
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    I refuse to just hop into bed with someone. I turned two of my exes down because I wasn't ready, thank God too, the relationships didn't last long anyway, So I guess I gambled and won. And I know where BiBi's guy is coming from, I don't want any girl I date to ever feel pressure from me to start having sex. I don't want to rush things, far too often people do, and then find that they don't really care for the other person. It takes sex from being a wonderful thing between two people that really care about eachother, to "fun" between people that are solely out to have a good thing. [/end rant]
     
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    It all depends on the kind of relationship you are trying to establish, if you 'know', I see no reason for waiting beyond the first few hours, but if you have doubts, the longer the better.
     
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    what is with this fake morality or stupid principles? just go as you feel like to.. if you understand your date very well from the first second on, I don't think there must be any real hesitations about having sex right afterwards. you still can get to know eachother very well.

    or is every relationship that started with sex doomed to failure? bullshit!

    open up your minds, don't preconceive an ideal for every future encounter or situation. re-examine everytime. the world changes and grows all the time, so why the should principles and morals stay same?
     
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    I don't really see where anyone is pushing their principles and morals, any more than your response displays your own (fake)morality and (stupid)principles (your words, not mine).
    Looks like most are just giving their opinion (some based on personal experiences) which is what the original thread creator asked.
    Of course, this is "jmho". ;)
     
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    Because I believe in things like morals, I think there are absolute rights and wrongs. Morals based on these absolutes can't change by definition of the absolutes themselves. Feel free to disagree Spanish. I'll change my mind when reason dictates I'm wrong.
     
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    @rose and anonymousOne

    I was just a bit angry today... didn't even read the entire topic as I usually do. Of course everyone is entitled to their opinion. actually my posting above doesn't really fit in here.

    no pun guys.

    :)
     
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    No prob, SP. I have some extra Prozac, if you need it. :)
     
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    oh thanks Rose! I'll get some beer anyway, that will help me too.

    actually I need a fuck, a blow-job or just a hug... :humpb
     
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    Don't know about the first two, but here's my donation:

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    For me personally, I want to get inside a woman's head before I get inside her pants.

    That way, for me anyway, it is all the more explosive and exciting.

    It might take a few days. It might take a few months.

    But then we are all different.
     
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    thanks, sweet of you! :)
     
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    depends in my opinion on how well u know the person and if everything is clicking....

    ive yet to have it... 20...virgin....um, havent had many dates either. *sigh sigh*

    prolly will be 50 till im still a virgin...
     
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    you probably wanna try David DeAngelo once :)
    google him. he's good.
     
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