threesome

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  1. alexi77

    alexi77 New Member

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    Can a threesome ruin a marriage? The guy would not be a friend of ours, rather someone we met on craigslist.he's very good looking, just afraid if he really gets along with my wife, might be more than just sex. He knows this would be strictly for sex.

    By the way,I am 28, she is 30, we have been married three years, dated 3 years prior. It is great, but sexually she has seemed less and less excited the past year.

    This began as her idea, but was always an interest of mine that i never shared with her until she mentioned the idea which seemed jokingly at first.

    She's had several guys before me, much more experienced than I am, shes great in bed. Most of her ex's were very good in bed, confident men.
    So she loves me as a person no doubt, oral has always been great between us(always gets her off) but she's gotten bored with the sex i guess.
    I don't last very long, not hung(just over 5 inches) we were somewhat adventurous before.
    (sex in car, at her moms place with them home when we dated, rimming, dirty talking, even her describing past experiences as I go down on her).

    So this night looks like good fit for us, and I'm maybe being slightly afraid for nothing?
     
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    I have a couple of profiles on websites in Australia and I have done quite a few couples threesomes over the past few years. For me it is a sexual fantasy and I have only had a sexual interest with the women of those couples. If I wanted a relationship beyond once-off sex, I would use a different way of finding one. The threesomes we had were mutually pleasurable, a few seriously fantastic, and that's all. After, the couples went their ways and I went my way, and as far as I could tell none the worse for the experience. Fantasy enjoyed.

    In all my threesomes it was a husband fantasy but the wives and I gained more pleasure out of what happened than the husbands. Women are more sexual then men in such situations. I am more confident and experienced than most men, and this is part of why I gained a lot of pleasure too.

    If you do go down this path be prepared that the male and your wife may have a great time and you may not, indeed you may not be able to get erect and have intercourse (which has happened a few times around me). But you may also have a great time and fuck your wife senseless: it all depends on your state of mind before and during. A few husbands did have great times a did fuck their wives senseless after me, even though I was much bigger (for what that's worth). They had their heads in the right places.

    It really is down to you. Be positive, take some viagra to help, and enjoy.
     
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    i wouldnt say youre "being afraid ,for nothing"...my advice to you is DO NOT RUSH INTO THIS.....my gf and i have been talking about all sorts of 3some,soft swap, same room sex, fullswap types of things and ive been listening to peoples advice that have some experience with this, such as cbr...there are soooo many things that can happen, and you need to be able to handle them..what if he drops his pants and a 9" cock pops out, and she reacts to it ina way that youve never seen her react? what if he fucks her for an hour and she has 5 orgasms? how will you feel the next time youre inside her? unless you have some sorta sph thing going on, it could kick your confidence right in the balls...but if youre confident in your relationship, and you know that you are the right man for her no matter what this other guy does then it could be alotta fun....just prepare yourself....(thats what i'm doing...:D)
     
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    Thanks for answers, and yes, we did discuss for past several months until be both agreed to try. We can stop anytime during the night if one of us feels uncomfortable. We chatted via cam earlier and we feel more comfortable and excited now. Great guy,hung, confident, and not looking for more than sex. I actually hope he's as good as he says, she deserves it :)
     
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    let us know how it turns out because we're about to do some similar things too and would love the input from someone whose done it,...