Threesome Issues

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by hothornychick, Jun 17, 2009.

  1. hothornychick

    hothornychick New Member

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    Hi

    Well my boyfriend wants a threesome but I am not so sure, I am a little insecure with him and just feel that if I did it he may go off with her etc, even tho deep down I don;t think he will it is something I would love to do but I am scared any idea's.
     
  2. Barbwire

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    If you have any insecurity issues with your relationship AT ALL, it's not a good idea to involve another person in your sex life. Nothing good can come of it.
     
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    I agree with CL. Until you are secure in your own relationship I don't think it's a good idea to introduce anyone else into it.
     
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    First, CL is right. Any little cracks in your relationship will be put under a microscope, tested and exposed. Some relationships can withstand that kind of scrutiny, most cannot.

    BUT...and I'm going only on your brief post, you tell us your concern is based on a fear of losing him to the other woman - even though you're confident that he's yours. That is a completely understandable fear. A possible solution is to choose a woman who is not likely to be interested in "stealing" your man. Someone you can trust. Someone who isn't available. Someone sane and secure. Good luck.

    The problem with this kind of situation is that once it's done, it's done. There's no going back.
     
  5. blue_eyes_phil

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    Just do it, you only live once.

    Its more likely to bring you closer together than draw you apart.
     
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    Ah, the sage advice of a twenty three year old :lol

    Sorry to jerk your chain Phil, and I agree - you only live once, but your other statement is false.
     
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    Agreed.