Thoughts On Humour

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  1. 10_3XL

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    How important or relevant is a sense of humour in a relationship for you? Also: What sort of humour is appealing and what is off-putting or irritating?

    If you haven't noticed - I use humour/comedy quite a bit in my interactions with everyone. Normally I like to think it's not too bad or annoying, but acknowledge that at times it is downright "stupid," "screwball," or "goofy." So, I got to pondering how others perceive that.

    Is it a Good Thing for a person (man or woman) to have a sense of humour, is it a Bad Thing, or is it completely Not Applicable?

    I'm surprised at myself for having not asked this before now. This, of course, goes out as a question to both men and women (with the focus being on humour pertaining to non-platonic relationships).
     
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    Exactly same here. I think sometimes I might use humor as a defense mechanism. A way to engage in conversation but still maintain some comfortable distance. I spent way too much time in my adult life being serious all the time, now time to relax and enjoy.

    Ok on to your question about is it important. Yes it is and the nice thing is my wife and I share the same quirky sense of humor. That’s a big plus as we keep each other entertained.
     
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    Definitely good to have good sense of humor IMO :)

    Seriousness when in a humorous situation can be annoying lol
     
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    Life without humour? No thanks.
    It will make THe difference often on the outcome in the long run.

    Everybody is different so for the type of humour, depends who you're with AND the situation. Common sense here.
     
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    Humour, best known aphrodisiac.
    Knowing how to make a woman laugh is like diamonds, they get that certain glint in their eyes and...Yes!
    Take care on what you consider as appropriate humour though as something that may get a dude in stitches can be a total turn off to a woman if it seems lurid or in bad taste.
     
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    You are so right! One of things I like about a man is a good robust laugh!
     
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    As long as your companion is laughing with you, stick with it...
    If the laughter changes to at your expense, you went too far. There comes a time in a relationship when feelings become serious, and the battle is now to avoid the tears. love.jpeg
     
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    I agree. At that point it is no longer humor, but cruelty
     
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    Humor? Not needed. Not with modern technology:

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    HOW DID YOU GET A PICTURE OF THE REAL ME??!! :eek:
     
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    No sense of humor =>not acceptable - Bad sense of humor => even worse
     
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    Gotta have a sense of humor.
     
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    I find a sense of humor in a man very sexy, especially if he is able to laugh at himself.
     
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    I never laugh at myself, that guy in the mirror though...he's a fucking joke. :)
     
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    Humour is essential in any relationship.
    Humour is one of the things that separates us from the other animals.
    If you cannot share laughter with a woman then you can't really share anything.
     
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    Humor is very, very important to me. I am extremely lucky to have met and even luckier to have married the man I did. His sense of humor and ability to see the funny side of everything even when I'm at my darkest moments is what gets me through every day.

    His humor has saved us during many arguments. Example, we were having a tiff and he brought home a coconut and threw it on the bed to me. Said it was because I was so god-damn hard headed. He's also brought home snickers and slipped them under the doors or what have you because I've been "cranky". Ya know, the commercial..."you're not yourself when you're hungry, eat a snickers".

    9/10 times, him making me laugh can turn my mood from hellish beast back into a normal person.

    Humor: 10 of 10, must have. :D
     
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    The first time the boyfriend and I really laughed together was in bed when something new we were trying (and it was all new back then) turned out awkwardly. We both understood how important it is to keep a sense of humor in bed.

    The boyfriend has a silly side that makes me laugh until I'm snorting. I would say it's a Good Thing.
     
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    A sense of humor is as necessary as skin and internal organs.

    Have you ever spent any amount of time with someone who has NO sense of humor whatsoever? It's like hanging out with a ventriloquist dummy (ventriloquist not included). They just sit there and stare creepily, and when you point that out to them, they stare creepily at YOU!

    Nightmare fuel...
     
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    Nah, even Chucky had a sense of humor. A really cheesy, warped sense of humor, but it still counts