Thoughts on her

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  1. Deepthinker

    Deepthinker New Member

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    I like to hear what others think about my wife and I. Please give input and thoughts on what kind of woman you think she is and things we can and should try and do more of :)

    She doesn't mind facials, I can cum anywhere on her and in her. We take pics weekly...taking pics whenever. The pics are hardcore and softcore. You think of a pic we have taken it. As my screen name mentions...I am a deep thinker. As I am not complaining one bit, I do wonder about her actions. Do women that do what my wife does have a deeper desire to be slutty? We took some online couple test and some of her answers were eye opening. Things I already knew but more in depth sexually. Which is all great. But do women who like it hardcore and explicit pics, sex...etc have a deeper desire?
     
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    Not sure what youre getting at... Is it still slutty if she only wants to do these things with you? I say no, she's just comfortable being her sexual self with you.
     
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    Thats part of what I'm getting at I guess..I am sure she is being sexually comfortable, I just was thinking if there is a part in her as a woman that desires to let more and more out . Like recently toy talk came up more, i got a hitachi wand a few months ago and she loves it when we use it, I guess its just enjoying the new things being introduce. I think its more of me thinking, because the frequency of pics too, it made me say to myself can there be a deeper desire. I know its kind of a ramble
     
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    She does it either because she's really into it, or because she knows that you really get off on it and does it to please you. Only you can figure out which.

    I'd say that she probably does the facials because you get off on it. I have only met one woman in my life who truly wanted facials. Even in hardcore professional porn, a woman who is begging "cum all over my face baby", is usually wincing, grimacing and squinting. That pretty much says they are doing it for the camera and have no real desire for it.

    Some guys get off on this because it gives them a feeling of dominance and control over the woman. Most woman do not enjoy this and actually find it degrading. Most that do it, are just doing it for their partners pleasure. Some actually do enjoy and desire this act, but they are very rare.

    Many women get off on the idea of being a slut, as long as they are YOUR slut. I'd say this is probably the case. Who cares if she wants to be slutty, as long as she's your slut. Enjoy it and stop reading too much into it. Many guys stuck in a very vanilla relationship would be glad to trade places with you. Enjoy the ride.

    xx
     
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    Enjoying the ride for sure....One thing about the facials...she is that rare woman...likes facials, even when she doesnt ask for it she likes it. We took pics two weeks ago and as I was setting the camera up she told me to get facial pics for that night. :)....I am having a blast with her :)
     
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    I dont think liking doing things like that with your husband is slutty. Whatever is between husband and wife is as it should be. And if she wants more give it to her, more fun for the both of you right?
     
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    I agree tiffers..I use the word slutty because there are so many prudes and vanilla sexual relationships I hear and read about all the time. So that was the depth of my question. Some women so prude and others are not. Some like my wife are so open and others arent...But shit, I am having a blast.
     
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    Ya baby lol lucky guy you ^_~
     
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    Well, there's one way to find out and that's to ask her. Talk about fantasies with her. Now keep in mind that not all fantasies can come to fruition within a relationship. I know the wife and I both have fantasies and or find many things that are incredible turn ons to think about to talk about, but we've both agreed that some of these just aren't worth risking our current relationship for. It's still great to have and share them though and there's no need to absolutely close and lock the door on any of them, unless it's just a true hard limit for either of you.

    The idea that your wife is "slutty" is just how you and she look at it. In our case, she is MY slut and it is both a term of endearment and a turn on for both of us for her to be able to confide in me the trust for her to be as sexually open and honest with me as she wants to be. The dirtier the better and I'm not about to judge her for what desires she may want to share with me.

    A lot of men sit around sulking because their wives don't satisfy them sexually then on the other hand don't want to have them delve into the kinkier side of life because they "are their wives, mother of their children etc." I've heard this from couples I know and always just quietly shake my head.

    It's also a common thing for both partners to be completely frustrated to the point of the whole relationship falling apart when all the while they were both afraid to really talk honestly and openly about their sexual desires/wants. I've been there and thank god we started talking.

    Sounds like the two of you have a good sexual relationship, as long as there is open communication and consent it's no one's business what you the two of you explore together. Talk to her, find out what the two of you can agree upon to explore together, man there is so much out there to try. Start researching "kink" and you'll find a world of way to improve relationships both sexually and spiritually. You just have to find what suits the two of you. another website you may want to check out is fetlife. There are groups there for everything you ever wanted to know about and quite a bit you may not want to know about.
     
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    Anotherday! Thanks...that was an awesome reply. Recently for valentines day i gave her some more toys, some we played with and others not yet but she was open to all of them. And that made it all hotter that she was so into them! Interesting you use the word kink. I wrote her a note the other day saying to her not only are we into hardcore stuff we can also be crossing a line into kinkier things and she replied in a text that she agreed. I mean the pics we take are just like a hardcore porn shoot, but she likes it. I think over the next few weeks fantasy talks will come up.

    I am familiar with that site and will get her to look at it with me. You are so right there is so much out there. I love it all and each and everytime I introduce her to something she is into it ! So I can't wait to see what she will say in the near future, I am sure the more I show her and the more she talks about things she'll also want to do and try new things.
     
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    Good luck man, don't get lazy and don't take a woman like this for granted. She can be both your princess and slut at the same time. Not too many people have a chance to live a life with someone they can trust to open up to and truly share with.
     
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    Thanks, I plan on sending her the normal daily text of something sexual. :). It's hard(no pun) not to enjoy this and not think of her all the time...Like this morning, she took a pic laying across the bed showing her tits. In the beginning of the picture thing it was easy to think that she was doing it for fun with me or think it was for me, but after over a couple hundred pics, its something in this for her too. She has to be getting turned on herself as well.
     
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    Being "Slutty" in the bedroom with your SO is not really "Slutty". Its just pleasing eachother.
     
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    I agree just a little there, some people are pleasing each other in such boring ways...same ole missionary position etc..but I think women like my wife have a side to them that is much different that prude types who believe they are pleasing
     
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    He he he, in my opinion the bigger the slut in the bedroom the better. But hey, that's just old fashioned me...