Those long, wtf orgasms

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  1. sensless

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    All orgasms are good, by definition! But, oh, sometimes the building up is just like you're going crazy, so close, so wonderful and for such a long time. Then comes the orgasm itself and it's just... you know what I mean.

    Do you have a method to getting those? Or it just happens?

    With me, it's a total surprise. I mean, he can do the same thing another day and only get me to a normal orgasm. I think a lot of it is linked to the visual.

    Is it all in the mind?
     
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    Think it boils down to , the whole experience. From how youbmade love , and the MOOD you both are in at that moment
     
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    abstinence does it for me :rolleyes:
     
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    In my case, to have a long and slow build up, it needs to be done SLOW. I mean SLOW.
    Once in the zone, that sensation an orgasm is on its way, not hurrying the finish is the key.
    Edging, then once it's too much to hold back, slow and soft until it explodes.
     
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    When you say slow, you mean the actual fucking? Slow thrusting?
     
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    Any which way. For a guy it can be oral, hands, intercourse, between the breasts, you name it, or myself alone.
    I had a woman friend, and taking time to bring her to orgasm was what gave her the best ones.
    Yes, I went in slow, and the added benefit is that I was able to last and give her more that way.
    Also paying attention to other areas like if you LOVE kissing on your neck, etc.
     
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    Yes the power of the mind. Most of it comes from there. Most people realize the main sex organ is actually your brain. You can actually make pleasure more wonderful when you're fully in tune with your brain , if you actually really do perfect this skill. The mind can definitely 'talk' to the rest of your body and some amazing thing's can occur beyond the 'norm'.

    Now the trick is not over concentrate on it though. It's that place when you're doing it working the mind magic , but at the same time you're just letting it 'be'. After a while it will happen completely effortlessly though. Practice makes perfect so to speak. The connection will just 'happen'. In a nutshell the best orgasms come because your brain has been 'trained' to make them happen.
     
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    I think I get what you mean. When you say "perfecting this skill", do you mean something like conditioning your mind? Like a training of sorts?

    I like having things done to me. I want him to make it special for me. I give it all to make it special for him. It's like an exchange. I only concentrate on making it happen for him. I don't want to put in any effort to make it happen to myself. I'm in his hands, so to speak. In general, when I'm fucking, I want to let go, completely, be completely relaxed, completely his. Does it make sense? It isn't always possible, though.
     
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    It's that place when you're doing it working the mind magic , but at the same time you're just letting it 'be'. After a while it will happen completely effortlessly though.

    That bit above^^^ sometimes people think there not really 'thinking' as such during sex but of course they are. It's concentrating on the pleasure and feelings but not over concentrating... Intensifying them and over time you have 'trained' your mind to intensify the pleasure further. But yeah better to do this masturbating really though lol While having sex it could be boring and may even give you a headache lol You don't want that obviously. :D But eventually intensifying orgasms while alone it will flow over into sex as well.
     
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    I see. I don't know if I could do that.

    I must confess I don't like masturbating. It's been perhaps two months I've done it for the last time. Longer than that, I think.
     
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    Ok. And that's the thing , many people don't masturbate all that much or not at all , if they have a partner. And for damn good reason too , there is really no need too. :D
     
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    Its all about foreplay. Beginning before the clothes are even off. Build anticipation, create a great space for sharing time together, block out all distractions, and then don't dive right into fucking, use sensual touch, massage kissing hugging touching oral and then intercourse to build up over hours. That is an intense orgasm.
     
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    I've never fucked for hours. I have fucked several times in a day, though.

    And foreplay, it never lasts very long. Long enough for me, but I've never done what you're talking about.

    A lack in my education!
     
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    There is no one size fits all, it all depends on the people involved.
    Participant personalities and specific likes and dislikes all come into it.
    I have found that for many ladies mind fucking is what gets them but equally others it is the sensory experience.
    I once believed that me lasting a long time would give the best experience and to some it did, like slow gentle penetrative sex for 30 - 40 minutes and those really enjoyed that gentle building up to a crescendo but then other just want a visceral animal fuck, hard fast and cum multiple times experience.
    Horses for course but even the same woman will differ according to mood, available time, ambiance, state of mind and many other factors besides.
     
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    I'm calling bull shit!!! Lol
     
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    No she means a delayed buildup then wild rabbit sex on reunion.
    I know and have experienced that with my SO, start fucking at the front door and not even get to the bedroom ;)
     
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    I know what she meant :)
     
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    Always close the door behind you ? That mistake can give the neighbours a treat if not! lol
     
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    But it is a short WTF orgasm ;)
     
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    I don't believe it can be attributed to any one technique. The times I have experienced the extended female orgasm with a partner have been the result of the intersection of anticipation and extreme horniness, complete trust in each other, great communication, and a comfortable relaxed environment free of all distractions. Then the magic happens and she reaches a higher plane where there is only sensation, the waves begin and she skips from crest to crest to crest almost indefinitely.

    If it happened frequently, it wouldn't be nearly so special.