this is embarassing

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  1. jess09

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    Me and my boyfriend tried the other day to have anal sex. Well tried, that's the word. Because when we were about to do it, doggy-style position, I totally panick and stop him. Now, I am so embarassed about this. He's already done him with a lot of women before. He's gonna find me so childish.
     
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    No need to feel embarrassed. If he's been with many women he's been stopped before. Never feel embarrassed by stopping something you're not ready to try.
     
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    I totally agree with Joe.
    I have never had anal sex and would hesitate about doing
    it if I were asked.
    And I can honestly say that even though I was a swinger
    for many years I have never been asked.
    Most of us on this forums are very experienced at sex
    yet quiet a few of us has never had anal.
    And I for one don't want it.
    And if your boyfriend is experienced he will understand
    why you are hesitant about having anal.
    It is not for everyone.
     
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    hey it's your life, if you do not like it don't do it. I personally think anal stinks! Pussy is natural hole created by nature where man sticks his cock and ass is made for shitting and is stinky even though u wash it. it's only my personal opinion , do what u like to do and do not allow others to force you to do things u do not wish 2 do. take care.
     
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    My wife & i have tried about 3 or 4 times. We have not been successful yet. No need to be embarassed. It would not have been good if you were not ready anyway. It will happen, just be patient. we have not given up on anal so far. we talk about it a lot & will do it when the time is right.
     
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    don't be discourage
     
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    I seriously doubt he would think less of you. If he does move on girl. He seriously has no respect for you if he does. You should be completely ready and hornyer than than a giant stag before you do this.
     
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    I think that is quite normal, the first time I agreed to try anal I did the exact same thing as you. It was not the end of the world, just that I thought I was ready and I wasn't. After awhile I was willing to try again, and was more comfortable and it worked out fine.
    As has been mentioned before, never feel ashamed about stopping anything if you feel uncomfortable.
     
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    Anal sex is definitely something that the woman must be ready for, in order for it to work and be pleasurable. I love anal sex, but there have been many times during foreplay that I thought I wanted it, so I asked him to. Then upon the time of insertion, I realized it wasn't pleasurable, so I told him to stop. :lol - Women! - Always changing our minds - but the mood wasn't deterred. We just laughed, and went on to something else. It certainly shouldn't cause an impasse in your relationship. Sex is all about caring for each other's pleasure, and growing in 'kinky-ness' together. ;)
     
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    Well said, Rose! jess09, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. :)
     
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