Hi, I honestly had no idea how to title this thread so sorry if its misleading. also I'm writing this from my phone so I apologize in advance for any messy grammar, English is my 2nd language. Also, wall of text. well then, to the point. I'm a 22 year old guy who a few months ago realized that sex doesn't seem to be my thing. why you ask? well over the past 5-6 years I've had a few partners, all of which I was in a stable relationship with where one of these lasted for 3 of those years. so I guess that would count to about 5 partners if I'm not mistaken. I've always set my main priority to make sure that the girl I'm with is having a good time putting aside my own needs. I had never paid any attention to what I was doing until about 9 months into my last relationship that I only ever managed to finish maybe once in a 20-25 times. it didn't matter how or what she tried because nothing ever felt good, not blowjobs, not handjobs, nothing really and I've had this with every partner. I considered myself lucky if I managed to come during the sex rather than having to mess around after both she and I were tired from the sex itself. what I'm trying to get at is that I've always been telling others that asked how sex is not all 'you'mainly to guys, make sure sex is fun etc, spice things up and I went through with all of that myself together with my partner's yet I still feel today like that sex was only a chore. sex is supposed to feel good and be nice, why is it that now when I've been without it for 11 months I'm not at all tempted to even have sex again. I never went in to having sex with any expectations other than 'its supposed to feel good' yet even that failed me. any thoughts? perhaps someone is experiencing something similar?