The distance between the clit and the vagina

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  1. Barbwire

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    I was talking to a friend the other day and I was bemoaning the fact that when god created women he kinda fucked up because he put the clit so far from the vaginal opening, making it harder for women to orgasm from vaginal intercourse.

    My friend said he thought I was shortchanged there because he's known women whose clits were closer to their vagina than mine is and said it was easy enough to stimulate them while he was stroking into them to the point where they orgasmed.

    So, now I'm wondering just how much variation there is in the distance between women's clits and their holes. I've only seen my own female parts up close, so I don't have anyone to compare myself to.

    Guys, what are your thoughts?
     
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    I'll volunteer to run a survey (get first hand evidence).:lol
     
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    Hahaha..! I'll be your assistant:phat
     
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    Hmm, it seems I have asked the wrong people about this.

    Ladies, please measure the distance between your clits and your openings and post the measurements here. Oh, and when you post your reply, please let me know if you can orgasm from peenie thrustings. Thank you.

     
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    It's kinda hard to tell from the mans side...
    interesting though, i never took measurements...
    my 03 cents......

    i agree with your friend, women ive been with have been able to recieve clitoral stimulation when im deep and thrusting hard into them...

    haven't discussed this with every partner, but some did seem less receptive to it, so many it does vary with the distance??

    prob other variables too, like bone structure/contour down there on both the male and female body...?

    i know my current lady get stimulation from it...
     
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    The answer is that there isn't much difference from woman to woman, going from my many past partners. It is possible for the clit to be aroused during intercourse because the hood and the inner labia are formed from the same fold of skin. However, it takes a larger than average girth to pull and tug the labial lips enough for this to happen. Because of my build I can give my wife a vaginal orgasm at any time, the most recent being Saturday morning. Actually three vaginal orgasms, until she told me to change positions because she was getting too senstive.

    My 6.5" girth is found in about 1 in 1000 men.
     
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    Ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!!!!!
    It is totally amazing how cbrmale ALWAYS manages to make every thread about the size of his cock!

    CL, I can't orgasm from vaginal intercourse, I have to have some sort of clitoral stimulation which I usually do myself while being penetrated.
    It also has NOTHING to do with the size of the penis, I have been with some very large men, small men and average men. So there goes the I am bigger then anyone else theory.
     
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    the only way my clit gets any action during sex is when it is played with via fingers/toys/tongue..... I don't have a tape measure on me, but I just had a quick feel and I'd say a few cm's or an inch in Yank terms.
     
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    Hoping not to create too much of a storm here but in my experience there does seem to be some general racial variations just as there are with eye shape etc.
    I have found that Caucasian woman tend to have longer vulva, larger lips and clit further apart that ladies of Asian ethnicity who tend to have everything smaller and clit closer to the vaginal opening.
    Perhaps I am barking up a wrong tree here and it might just be attributed to relative body size.
    Even if there were to exist some morphological difference (more than just random between females), whether this has any bearing on the actual ability to vaginally orgasm by intercourse is probably unrelated and more to do with G spot sensitivity.
     
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    A lot of people measure penis size by length, whereas girth is the key measurement when it comes to pulling or tugging the labia and the hood which is connected to the clitoris. It is also thought that above-average girth stimulates the g-spot more directly, which enhances stimulation.

    Average male girth is somewhat less than 5"; my girth as I stated is around 6.5", which is a significant volume increase. It's possible you have seen some very long penises, but have you had sex with a 1 in 1000 thickness? Remember, this is much thicker than most large-penis men in porn films. I don't have much porn but recently I saw Rocco Sigfredi (if that's how you spell it) in the mainstream film Romance, and I'd say he was about 5.5" thickness or so, based on his size relative to the actresses hand and fingers.
     
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    My intention, when I started this thread, was to see if there was a difference in the distance between the clit and the vaginal opening from woman to woman. Why has it been turned into a conversation about how big your dick is, cbrmale? Why don't you just put your dimensions in your signature line so you don't have to take the time to type it out in all the posts you make about it?

    Okay, back on topic, bushwalker, your theory is interesting and may hold some water. Perhaps women with smaller vulvas, where everything is packed together more closely, are more apt to have their clits stimulated by intercourse. Makes sense to me.
     
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    Thank you for seeing my point CL! Sigh!

    I truly do think there have to be variations from woman to woman. We are all different.
    Maybe we should all take pictures and post them in the AM section to be 100% certain?

    Oh, and Cbrmale, yes, I have. I could not get my hands around his penis. It was thicker then a coke can. So you are not the only man in the whole widest world ever that has an alleged big un!
    Oh, and if it is soooooooooooo big, why have we not seen a picture on the AM section?
     
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    And for scientific reasons, just as a way to get some perspective, we definitely need to see a picture of cbrmale's alleged mammoth member. :lol

    PS: Haha, loveit, I didn't see the part you added to your post until I'd already posted my reply. Great minds think alike.
     
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    There's another way you can get stimulation to the clit during the missionary position. There's a name for it which escapes me at the moment, but it involves the male mounting a little higher than normal, inserting his penis as far in as possible, then holding it there while the couple rocks back-and-forth, side-to-side, etc. This gives pretty much constant stimulation to the clit, much like woman-on-top often does. Once you both get into a rhythm it works pretty well. Okay, VERY well. ;) I've done it this way with a few different women, and, to the best of my recollection, it seemed to work with all of them.

    An added benefit for many would be that it doesn't give the male as much stimulation, so he's less apt to orgasm too quickly. For me, I usually have to abandon it or I'd wear out (or wear her out) before finishing. And, of course, it wouldn't work for the horses out there who have penises that bottom out before getting all the way in, but I'm a little bigger than average, and it works for me.
     
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    CAT sex is what it's called, Joe and it didn't work a damn for me and my hubby.

    I think that one of the reasons is, in order for my clit to get the right feeling, it has to be stimulated with something much more "pointy" (for lack of a better word) then a penis.

    The Hitachi Magic Wand has a g-spot attachment that has a nub at the base of it meant to stimulate the clitoris. I have found that works great for me because the pressure/vibes are much more localized than if I use it without the attachment and use the head of the Wand to try to get off.

    Also, the Eroscillator I have works best when I use the heads with the little knobs, not the head with the marshmellow look to it.
     
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    You and your magic wand :D It may be in the wrong place for vaginal intercourse, but it's in the right place for reaching around and playing with it while in doggie style :)
     
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    There's only two positions during intercourse that I have my clit stimulated by pentration and I think they're both considered CAT positions. Missionary with him in and further up my body than usual and cowboy with me leaning forward and him arching his pelvis so my clit's rubbing on it while I rock up and down his cock.

    Other than that. It has to be hands or toys.

    My distance, at a guess would be about an inch or so (a few cm's). It's fairly easy for him to finger me and rub my clit at the same time though he has got really large hands so they might play their part also.
     
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    Ok, I will answer with a number..3/4"....I have a long fat clit, and I need lots of stimulation there with some good old peenie thrusts hitting the right spot to have a killer orgasm, which is usually why my HMW and a good old dildo are very handy. I do find the more angled back my ass is the better the stimulation from a penis. If the dick is not hitting it I usually supplement with my good old fingers. Nothing like a good jilling to get ya there ;). And I too, would love to see a pic of the much fabled CBRMALE cock, as the story of it appears in almost every thread on SF :)

    Show us whatcha got, M!

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    Loveit24/7; what a great idea "we should all take pictures (vulvas) and post them in the AM section to be 100% certain?":brow

    The second part; It (penis) was thicker then a coke can.:eek
    If you took that then to you:bow
    I guess oral could have only been a licking in that instance:lol
     
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    Beyond size, a man would need to last about 20 minutes or so. This is why we don't aim for vaginal orgasms for my wife except once in a while, say once or twice a month, because it can make her sore.

    My size is about 1 in 1000, so there's millions of men bigger than me. As far as lack of pictures go, I don't have a digital camera except for my mobile phone, which doesn't connect to my computer.

    I have seen lots of size differences in the clitoris of women I have been close to, but I wasn't particularly looking for clitoral location. As a generality, women with a smaller clitoris tend to be more sensitive to touch, women with larger are less sensitive, and women with medium to larger seem to be more likely to orgasm during intercourse from whatever stimulation that thrusting provides.