Hey Guys! I'm new here and I thought I should introduce myself since I am going to be asking some pretty personal somewhat kinky sex Q's. I'm a 27 y/o white woman living in atlanta with my boyfriend and everything in our relationship is perfect except that I am into something kinda weird in terms of sex. Our 'normal' sex is great. I typically orgasm everytime and he really goes the extra mile to make sure I do and vice versa. We are very open and in love. So here goes my reason for coming to the forum: When I first lost my virginity(18), I had already been reading crazy erotic novel's about 'forced' sex. Naturally, I implemented some of those fantasies with my now ex fiance (my first). He was very open to them and if not more kinky than me. I left him because I wanted to explore the world sexually. So after him, I dated a few guys one of which was into choking sex (which I really loved) and kind of kinky but he played too many mind games and after all of them I have now met my current bf who is very loving and pretty much perfect except we have 'vanilla' sex. Like I said,its good but its not perfect. I have always known I was into dominant men and before me, my bf was very dominate and kinky for that matter. I have a fantasy to be wrestled with/tackled down before sex...and the moment I have to ask for it, it kills the mood for me. my first did this for me in fact, he initiated it. I am not submissive in any way...I couldn't just bend over backwards and just do whatever I was told...I have too much 'fight' in me. An an attitude problem for that matter...he tells me to bend over, I would naturally retort 'make me'. I do however want to be tied up but not willingly if that makes sense..? I want my man to do it and 'win' it. I don't even know what to call what I like because its part bondage, part dominance but not really, I just call it the 'chased' fantasy...anyways. Any ideas on how I can approach my partner and engage this without blatantly asking for it? I mean everything else kinky I have asked for he does pretty well but my chase fantasy I just want to 'happen'. *I have been with him for almost 4 years, living together for 3. As I am typing this, I am sore from our night before lol...so yes, we have a decent sex life * Thanks everyone! I look forward to your responses.