The big O..what does it for you?

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  1. x_lascivious

    x_lascivious New Member

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    I've been with my boyfriend for a while and... well... I just can't reach orgasm during sex, but I can when he uses a clit vibe on me. I get close(or at least i think i do) when we're in the missionary position with my legs on his shoulders.. but it just doesn't come to me. My boyfriend has been trying so hard and I feel bad that I don't know how to help him out.

    Whenever my girlfriends and I get together to talk, I get soo jealous when they tell me how they can cum so easily...and that it's a totally different "earth-shaking" O. I know that there are many women out there who can't, but there are also a lot who can... so how do you do it? Thanks ;)
     
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    You should be aware that 80% of women can't have a vaginal orgasm, so it isn't a you problem. It's just the way you're anatomically structured. Most women do require clitoral stimulation for an orgasm to occur.

    A guaranteed way for me to have an orgasm during intercourse is to start with oral--it primes my body for it. Also, it helps to keep my feet on the bed (missionary) to get some leverage, allowing me to move my pelvis in just the right way to stimulate the clitoris (and it helps to have a good sense of rhythm!). I can't begin to explain it...it's purely instinctive. Experiment, experiment, experiment :)
     
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    X-l,
    You did not say how he goes about trying so we cant give much advice.
    other than speculate as to what he is doing wrong.
    You should be able to cum from straight intercourse, As long as
    his mons is touching yours so you can have your clitoris stimulated.
    If that doesn't work, Then He should be giving you oral until you do
    cum a few times to get you used to the idea that you can have
    orgasms during sex, That is assuming you have a hangup about sex
    and having an orgasm.
    I think Bluesy had the right idea, If your feet are flat on the bed
    and your pelvic is elevated with a pillow or just muscle power
    you can put a lot of pressure on your clit especially if He likes to
    put it all the way in and just grind instead of just thrust, :sf
     
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    Who says you can't grind and thrust at the same time? :) It's all a matter of rhythm...intercourse is the most intricate and loving dance of them all.
     
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    nobody said that.
    As a matter of fact I was thinking of saying
    to incorporate the two.
    But good point Bluesy.:sf
     
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    I guess I should elaborate, he's been trying to get me to cum by trying to find my g-spot, trying every position we know, stimulating my clit during sex etc etc. but nothing so far.. just great sex.. haha. As for oral, I do enjoy it as foreplay to get me hot for intercourse but it isn't something I'm into that much. Thanks for the help so far guys =]
     
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    Sorry, bighiker, I thought you were suggesting that clitoral stimulation would best be achieved through pelvic grinding exclusively... mea culpa. *blushes*
     
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    Ok, you migt have to try this and see if it works for you. I have a thick member, so just a few thrusts and Im ready to explode, what we have done to help in that is a great idea she came up with. I enter her in an accomidating position so she can reach her self with her vib. She will then make her self cum while I am inside her. Not a lot of moving on my part. Just enough to make the experience for her better. I then move forward with my enjoyment. But she has reached her O first. Just a thought and suggestion...
     
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    We all love your answers Bluesy, No apologies necessary.
    Go Google "G" spot It will tell you exactly it is at.
    also I like to give oral while massaging the "G" spot.:sf
     
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