[Ask a Girl] The best way to inititate sex?

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  1. NedF

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    Guys, feel free to chime in as well...

    I have almost totally accepted the fact that my wife will never initiate sex, it doesn't seem to be in her DNA. Not really a big problem as she almost always excepts my invitation (for lack of a better word).

    The only problem I have is finding the right way to let her know I am horny and want to jump her bones? Knowing what works for you or what you would like to happen but it doesn't, might help me freshen things up here.

    Thanks in advance!
     
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    The best way to let her know, but not always the most successful, is to presenter her with a full boner (think that is the expression used over there) that shouldn't leave her in any doubt.
     
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    That might have worked on her 25 years ago (unfortunately before I met her), but she is no longer impressed by, nor instantly turned on by the sight of my stiffy purposely exposed and bouncing to and fro.

    I have had success hugging her from behind and letting her feel the tethered bulge rub up against her ass.
     
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    I'm not sure.
    I think sometimes the small things work, watch a romance film cuddled up.
    Kisses on the neck and shoulder, and working hand round to tits while kissing neck, works for me
     
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    Sorry NedF but you did say "let her know", not how to impress her or turn her on.

    It takes a lot less than 25 years for a woman to stop being impressed by a boner, if she ever was but "although she might not like the message she does get it"
     
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    Can it be a romantic short film? :)

    I like the kisses on the neck idea!
     
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    Mushy films don't last long for me I'm usually getting mushy too
    Also both of you naked and give her a massage
     
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    I am following as I have the same issue with my wife
     
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    My ex used to just drop his pants and take what he wanted. So freakin hot...instant panty flood! But that might just be me
     
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    Yes, I have done that in a way, maybe not enough? I picked her up and layer her over the arm of the couch. Pulled off her shorts and ate her till she came, and then fucked her.

    That is going back on my list. :)
     
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    You should definitely put that back on your list!
     
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    I'm not much for romance, I tend to like the very straight forward ways of getting the point across. I guess it depends what kind of woman she is...

    What about a text/email/voicemail telling her how much you want her when you get home (or whatever fits the situation)?

    I also like the 'inappropriate' touches and gropes.. I like them most when they aren't done in appropriate situations. (Though I suppose that isn't an issue at home, so it isn't as sexy...)

    I'm not sure I helped at all, lol.
     
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    Actually you might have.

    My first wife did not like groping, so I tend not to do it to my current wife all that much. The thing is when I do she tends to smile, but I don't usually persist. Hmmm something to think about!
     
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    I am right there with you.

    Sometimes she will get up from the couch to go to the bathroom and when she comes back I'll be naked. Seems to work okay.
     
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    I have done this so much that every time I ask if she wants a massage she just thinks it's just so she will have sex with me. Yes a lot of the time it turns into that but it ruined it as a thing to do just to be nice.
     
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    Be creative and use variety. Tell her but in unusual ways. You can use subtlety or you can be more risque and literally jump her bones.
    From my point of view, a woman likes romance only up to a certain point, but it comes a time when a woman wants determination and strength too.
    It's very nice to have candles, a massage offer, a romantic dinner, flowers and other small or cute gestures; just don't stick to this type of routine all the time, you risk boredom and your message will get lost or even ignored.
    A lot of women never say what they really wish for and some of us are very 'shy' when it comes to initiating sex. As mind reading is not really an option, you'll have to use your head (the one between your shoulders) to think of ways to get her in the mood.
    Good luck! :)
     
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    my lated wife would remind me by saying "we haven't done anything for a while." I didn't need to hint to her I'm going to post another question here and see what you girls think.
     
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    Reaching over and playing with nipples works for me...... :D
     
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    Around here, if I do the laundry or empty the dishwasher, that seems to get the best response.
     
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    Well a little earlier I decided to start with my standard cuddle/ hug from behind. I worked my hug into caressing her tits over her clothes while gently kissing and sucking her earlobe.

    I made sure she could feel my cock grow between her ass cheeks.

    Now I am laying naked on top of the comforter waiting for her to return from a quick shower before we have sex.
     
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