Ok, I'm pretty sure that this has been asked loads of times but my request is a bit specific. I am looking for a toy for my wife - probably Valentine's day. She has never used one, is a (big) bit shy and will probably take some encouragement to actually use it. However, there is a very good reason for getting her this that I won't go into. So, what can I get her that is a vibrator type (not a dildo), doesn't look like an alien from some distant galaxy, wouldn't stretch the vagina of prime Heffer, can be used by her on her own, me with her, and while having sex simultaneously. It should be discrete and not one that can be heard by the neighbours 3 streets away. And comes in some demure packaging that doesn't frighten her before she even opens the box. I think it would be good if it was not a phallus that made me look totally inadequate and destroy any hopes of satisfaction that she can expect for from the real thing..............me! It would also be helpdful if it does not require a mortgage to buy the thing. That's about it.