The 22 year old virgin

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  1. qwerty991

    qwerty991 New Member

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    Yeah yeah yeah it's weird, I know. Anyway I think most of you would agree that it's about time. I have a few concerns, mostly about the whole premature ejaculation thing. What can a fellow do to avoid an embarassing situation? Is there any hope at all that a guy my age who's a virgin won't bust a nut too early?

    I'm also a bit concerned about size. Keep in mind that I'm uncircumsized, and although I don't have any frame of reference, I hear that makes a man look less well endowed than he otherwise would look. When I'm not hard at all, it's pretty small. Let's just say that. However when I'm fully erect I'd estimate that I've got probably just over 5 1/2 inches. What are we talking here? Is that normal or no?

    I'm sure I should be asking more questions...i'm kind of stumped right now. But any help with the above issues, along with other things that you think I should be concerned with, let me know. I'd appreciate it, thanks!
     
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    I'm pretty sure 5 inches is the official average size.
     
  3. AnonymousOne

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    Hey I was 20, it happens.

    The way I see it, if she knows it's your first time, she won't expect you to be a miracle worker. Give it your best shot, and learn to use your tounge! It will make her happy. Good luck mate!
     
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    Confidence is important, and it's something so many of us lack. 5.5" is right around average size. You have nothing to worry about in that department. As A1 mentioned, focus your attention to pleasing her, well before actual intercourse. Do all you can to please her. Kiss, snuggle, be playful, and give oral your best shot. intercourse will happen in its own time. Try not to get hung up on being perfect your first time out. Chances are your first time will be one of your most memorable, but it won't be because it was your best performance. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, and instead focus your energy on a romantic and intimate time together.

    Good luck!
     
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    Your size is about average, and it isn't the age when you start that is critical, it is what you do after you start. Make the most of every lovemaking opportunity from here on.

    I think the obsession about size from normal average men comes from seeing men in porn. The guys in porn are way bigger than average.
     
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    Coming from someone who's seen both, I'm going to assure you that circumcision usually isn't a factor in determining size. I personally am a huge fan of an uncut man, as it feels good for me. I think the important thing to remember about any sex, especially the first time, is to remember that it's supposed to be FUN. Sex is fun, that's why we do it so often. :) Relax, let yourself go with the flow, and don't build it up too much in your head before you do it.

    As for the premature ejaculation thing, if you feel it coming, whisper something sexy like "it's your turn" in her ear and take a little break to pleasure her. You can do this several times, I doubt she'll ever object. If it happens, just don't make a big deal of it. Tell her she's so good that you just couldn't contain it one second longer, then give her a spectacular orgasm. She won't be thinking about anything except the stars she's seeing. ;)
     
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    There's nothing wrong with being a 22 year old virgin. Dont rush into having sex if you just want to get it over with.
     
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    Nothing wrong with keeping hold of your virginity...22 is fairly young anyway. Be happy! I think the best thing you can do, is be with a woman you trust and love, so that you won't be a bit embarrased when the time comes. Your first time might not last long, but there are other things you can do to bring your partner satisfaction. So, I wouldn't stress over it. Practice makes perfect, and the more you do, the more you can do.
     
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    Thanks guys, that helps quite a bit!

    Honestly, just how important is it that the young lady knows it's my first time? I'd rather not have to go through all that if I don't have to, but I suppose I'm willing if it's really necessary.
     
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    Dude, don't feel weird because you're 22 and still a virgin. It's perfectly fine. It's admirable that you haven't just slept with the first floozy you could find, and that you seem to care a lot about your first encounter.

    As far as size goes, don't worry about that. Unless you've got the "micro" disorder (i.e. 1-1.5 inches when hard...) you've got nothing to worry about. I myself am about 5-5.5 inches when hard (as well as being pretty darn small when flaccid). I don't look at it as though I'm missing out on something (which I don't believe I am). Just because we feel like we're a little on the small side (which I think is closer to average size) doesn't mean we'll be any less capable of satisfying a woman. It might just require a bit more technique.

    Personally I plan on staying a virgin until I'm married. I know this method isn't for everybody, but I just want to ensure that my first encounter will be with somebody that means the world to me (not just the first chance I get with somebody).

    I hope this helps,
    Cheers Mate
     
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    I was 23 befor I finally had sex. But if I had taken my chances I could have had sex for the first time at 13.....ah summer camp =)

    Basically, youd be lucky to last 30 seconds the first time.....I didnt even make it to 10 (true story). The good news is that its just how it goes, anyone who sais differently is totally lying.
     
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    I bet she would be thrilled to know it's your first time, and be really turned on. If you feel a little awkward, which you probably will, she will at least know why, and probably try to be a little extra accommodating.
     
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    Thrilled, huh? Can anybody else vouch for this?
     
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    I've never had a virgin, but, knowing what I know now, I would find it an honor. And I would give him a celestial experience unnlike any other, gentle at the right times and overwhelming when necessary. :brow
     
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    I second that.....;)
     
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