Tell me it ain't true!

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Barbwire, Jul 18, 2007.

  1. Barbwire

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    I went horse camping for 3 days this past weekend. It was great to get away and hang out with my girlfriends and have a few cocktails around the campfire. I was looking forward to talking about my favorite topic, SEX. Well, that dream was killed, as once I brought it up, all of the women there said they could care less about it and didn't want it any more. All of my friends are older women, all much older than me. I was quite depressed to think that once I hit menopause my libido would wither up and disappear.

    I would rather die than to have that happen to me. Someone please give me some hope. :(
     
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    Well..I'm 24, but my boyfriend's parents still do it all the time. His mom told me all about it! They're in their fifties.

    I'm probably talking out my ass here, but sometimes I wonder if women who stop having sex after menopause weren't all that into it in the first place? Again, I would have no idea, i'm not at that stage yet.
     
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    Maybe the problem is they've never experienced good sex, figure they never will, so don't want to know any more. I bet at least some of them still masturbate but would never admit to it. Their still of the generation that would have benefited from the Sexual Revolution too so I feel sorry for them.

    There's also a school of thought that says some women, when they enter menopause, may have a poor self image. They don't like the changes in their bodies and figure no one else would be interested any more either. I've heard complaints from husbands that they still desire their wife, but she's decided since she's no longer fertile, the shop is now closed. She may even feel its abnormal for her to have an interest in sex any more.

    I find that very sad. On the other hand, there's plenty of women who find their interest in sex improves after menopause but.....and ain't it a bitch, the men in their lives aren't up to grade. You may notice lots of women sort of experience a kind of Second Age once they're freed of the responsibilities of childbearing and rearing, menstruation etc... Men, unfortunately, sometimes just seem to sink into middle and old age. I don't know who's idea of a joke that was. To make male and female sexual peaks so widely different on the age scale.

    In the meantime, rest assured there's lots of us peri-menopausal women out there who fully intend to be Glam Grannies! Me included!
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    Hmm, age doesnt always lead your sex life downhill. Two words: Hugh Hefner. and theres also a lot of "mature" porno out there. Some ladies still got the desire to get a lot of man meat.
     
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    Don't be worried if you ever feel like that I'm sure I can help sway your judgement lol
     
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    Well, just look at 69 : ) will ya? Only 5 posts under his belt and he's already hitting on Cowboy Lover! That boy's got it going on. :lol
     
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    It ain't true, CL. It's not an age thing from my experience. My wife is 51 and, when she's not tired from long days on the job, we enjoy extended sex daily. (Unfortunately, she works 5 days a week!) Ditto with my late wife. She died at 51, but up until then we had great romps 5-6 times per week, every week. On the other hand, my ex lost all interest by age 23.
     
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    CL, I am sure that it is different for every one, but it sounds like you are in tune with your libido and sexuality. I doubt that you will just wake up one day and loose that. I am sure that you have a pretty good idea of what turns you on it is just a matter of finding those things and going for them.
     
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    Somehow i think CK already has a very good understanding of what turns her on hehehe....


    But i sure hope if i ever get into a life long relationship ill still be a horny fucker till im in my 90's..
     
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    I can't see myself stopping when I hit that magic age, I love sex too much ;)
     
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    Yes, it is a normal part of the hormonal changes for a woman's sex drive to drop away post-menopause. But does this mean the end of sex?

    In the recent past I had a low-level illness running in my body for a number of years, and it is an illness with no known cure. During that time all we could do was monitor its activity to ensure that it wasn't damaging me internally. For those years my energy was drained; I woke up tired and I went to bed tired, and this was all the more difficult because I was working full time.

    I had no libido, but did this stop my sex life? No, because I made the effort for myself to enjoy the pleasure of sex and to share love with my wife. I also made the effort for my wife, for me to give her the sex life that she deserved. So we had sex regurlarly and it was nice and pleasurable and everytime she was satisifed and I was glowing: it was worth the effort.

    So I am a firm believer that even though we have a biological sex drive (evolution driving our need to propogate), we also have something else. We have the most important sex organ of all, the mind. And how much you enjoy sex and how much you love your partner determines how full your sex life will be.
     
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    HERE I COME, TO SAVE THE DAY!!! I have been menopausal for about 5 years now. It has been the most sexually-expressive time of my entire life. I always say, I do not know the science behind it, but it may be how one's mind/body handles the hormonal change. Or, it could be the situation changes (ie-children grown & gone; less stress, etc).

    In the years prior to menopause, I went through the ho-hum period where I could take or leave sex (usually 'leave' it :eyes), but something happened and I got almost nymphomatic!! :whoa So there IS hope, my lovely CL! Don't get your little pussy-hairs in a tangle over it. I'm sure you'll be fine. :tup
     
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    Well i sure as hell hope i end up with a female with your lust for sex when i grow up Rose :)
     
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    Who said I was grown up? :lol
     
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    hahaha :p slaps for me my bad ....

    Well you sure have a very grown up body :brow
     
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    Well, I think there is some truth to it, but it may not be age related. I have met many women who were still heavily into sex and some who had no interest. Same for some women in 30's if you can believe that. Also, some medications reduce sex drive. I think some of it with age has to do with change in body appearance, but I am here to tell you, if you are getting it on with me, I am not going to judge your body, lol! It's pretty sad that something that can be so pleasurable and is free(sort of), can be ruled out due to lack of interest on one party or the other. Hell, I know one guy whose wife is 30's and he barely has sex once a month, and he has never been allowed to have oral sex with her! Alot of people just don;t seem that open to exploration and pleasure and it only gets worse for some with age...
     
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    Cowboy Love for what its worth my mum is 68 and she her sex life is better now than ever, lmao i hope i follow her guide
     
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    Less talk, more action I'd guess.
     
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    I hope that i don't get like that when i am older. I'm going to try my hardest not to anyway, although i have a while to go yet!
     
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    You know to be honest I think there is a time when women are going through "THE CHANGE" that they are less interested but they make up for it later.