Teen with question about premature ejaculation

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  1. Drey123

    Drey123 New Member

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    So recently i have gotten sexually involved with my first girlfriend. The problem is that whenever she gives me a handjob or blowjob i end up coming way faster then i would like. Now i know that guys sometimes have a problem controlling their ejaculations but i was wondering if pure sexual arrousal could be the problem. I am extremely turned on by this girl and get hard from her even hinting at anything sexual, let alone doing anything. So by the time she gets my pants down i am practically ready to come. My assumption is that eventually my arrousal level will go down because the "newness" of the situation will wear off both in terms of her being my girlfriend and in terms of this being my first sexual experience, just as the newness of masturbating and porn wore off. Would this be a safe assumption?

    Also i have had sex with this girl but what we did was she gave me a handjob until i came, then i fingered her, and then we had sex. Ejaculating before sex allowed me to last a ridiculously long time. My other question - is this a valid practice if i do indeed have premature ejaculation? I dont lose erections between the handjob and the intercourse so there is definately a high arrousal/hormone level.

    Any thoughts? Thanks
     
  2. Nettle

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    There is no *valid practice*, it is whatever works for you :)
     
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    how old are you..o.o?
     
  4. HardRocker

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    Good question, Rainbow.
    Assuming you're 18+, my opinion is, I think you have the situation properly in hand.
    If you're a minor... o..o I was never here. <3 x.x..
     
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    seems like your doing ok, I mean if you can hold the erection after you have cumed once then you pretty much have it made and can give her quite a few orgasoms, and thats what your aiming for right, so give it time and you will learn about your body and hers
     
  6. matt4265

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    i wouldnt worry about it
     
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    blueyedcouple New Member

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    Ok heres the deal.If you are pretty sure that you and this girl are going to "get it on" before you leave the house rub one off. You know the Something About Mary don't go out with a loaded weapon thing.
     
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    beat an hour before lol
     
  9. connor1989

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    ye its always better to masturbate before if u have problems with this, just be careful not to do it too much b4 sex
     
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    youngstud is right, bust nut before she gets there
     
  11. dunny

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    lol, i love that scene.:lol
     
  12. AndrewD

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    At your point in life I wouldn’t worry too much but I have two points of advice beyond the obvious; just be careful

    1) You do need to solve the PE at some point and the best is to become more aware of your sexual sensitivity, not to masturbate/ejaculate before sex. You don’t want to condition yourself to “quickies” and what if sex comes at an unexpected time? The best way to do this is to practice on your own. Find some extended alone time to play with yourself and become more aware of each state of your arousal. As you feel yourself starting to come each time, hold back and see how long you can go for. Eventually it’s possible to have multiple orgasms separate from ejaculation and to extend love making a long as you want. For more on this read: The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams

    2) Make sure you’re taking care of her also.