Techinical Difficults during first attempt of having sex...?

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  1. Mayorga160

    Mayorga160 New Member

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    Both me and my girlfriend are both virgins, yesterday we both agreed that we wanted to have sex.

    The issue was that when we were both undressed, my erection went away faster than you can snap....obviously we were both frustrated at the fact and I was only able to get a partial erection during the 30-40min of trying...me looking stupid and her feeling like it was her fault that she did something, we both just gave up and agreed to try again another time...

    She feels bad. I feel stupid. WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED?!?!

    I just DONT get it! The time when I should have one, i dont.. and when were fully clothed fooling around or in the pool fooling around its like....really?:ugh

    I have no idea what the issue was..and neither does she...I just feel like an idiot...any ideas on what happend or any answers as to WHY?!
     
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    I don't know maybe get her to suck on it a little once the two of you are fully unclothed ... touch and feel eachother have more foreplay once undressed....

    maybe it's because you're thinking too much about the situation when you become naked anxiety about finally having to initiate intercourse once naked?
     
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    Everything sounds normal, including the feelings on both of your parts that it's not. It's new and unusual and that can be intimidating and/or scary, there's a lot of pressure to perform and that can make it harder to remain erect.

    Spend time naked together doing things that are enjoyable whether you have intercourse or not. You need to be able to enjoy without pressure.
     
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    You went into mechanical mode when you got your clothes off. You forgot affection and desire and replaced it with doing the act. Next time, lay together petting ans stroking, exploring and tasting, touching and kissing all over each other. It'll happen. If you get a boner and go all mental again, don't worry about it, like I said, be affectionate and focus on her and not yourself and you'll evenyually get there.
     
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    I remember my first time. ahh....memories....=] There was blood everywhere!! xD hahaha
     
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    i would say start off with 69 and that will get both of you ready. it always works for me, and then make sure you turn your brain off. it is possibe to think too much.
     
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    Yeah, right on.
    Wanting to do it doesn't always do the trick, you need to work on it.
    Use your hands, mouth, get busy touching, sucking, etc.
     
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    It is is called stage fright or performance anxiety and can happen to anyone.
    Next time don't focus so much on the act but the beauty of your naked bodies.
    Probably won't happen again unless you focus on the issue.
    Also as others above have already mentioned; spend time stroking and touching one another sensuously whilst leaving the genitals until last.
     
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    I know why, it was your first time. As others have said, you were basically thinking too much and intimidated. Happened to us on our first time too, but that was more he was so scared of hurting me and the idea of me hurt was NOT a turn on for him.
    If you aren't already familiar with each others naked bodies- work on that. Give each other oral favours naked....start out that way and then progress to grinding...and then sex. If you go slow you will give yourself time to get used to being naked and so close, and then it will burn a desire to want to be closer- both maintaining your erection.
    :)
    Goodluck!
     
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    Nerves...straight up. It will be ok man...
     
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    Nice Godiva :) Great advice
     
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    If you think with your head, it drains the blood from your penis, therefore causing an involuntary withering of the penis. Scientific fact. ;)
     
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    Exactly. Try to relax as much as you can and explore each other with every appendage you have. If you're in a situation where you only have a limited time to do it, you're really better off waiting until you have more time. It will make the experience much, much better for both of you.
     
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    A couple of glasses of wine should help.
     
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    Stress is the biggest erection killer.

    Relax, take it easy, don't make such a big production out of it.
     
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    I guess you finally got over this!
     
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    Thanks everyone! Happy to say we've done it multiple times now with no issues! :)
     
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    Just relax. Maybe try undressing slowly instead of all at once. Ex: take off a shirt then more making out/rubbing etc, then another article of clothing and repeat. That way you don't go from foreplay to straight up naked all at once, you let it build up to that. And remember, just breathe. If you care about each other I promise it will okay.
     
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    Oops. Didn't see your last post before I replied, but congrats!!!
     
  20. Maverick

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    You should look at his other thread. From virgin to getting girls pregnant via anal sex in 2 weeks. Gotta be a record. ;)

    God, this is easy setups.