teach me some tricks!

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by yellowturkey, Jan 3, 2008.

  1. yellowturkey

    yellowturkey New Member

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    hey everyone im new here, just looking for some advice...

    i'm still a virgin but i'm seeing a guy and we've been playing around together. i have no experience so he usually directs the action and if effectivley 'teaching' me. it's lots of fun but i want to be able to take control sometimes and surprise him with new things too. problem is, because of my lack of experince i don't really know anything. can anyone suggest some things i could try? what are some things that can really drive guys crazy? no sex, just foreplay type things....
     
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    Well...


    ...next time you're together, you could whip out some beer and cuddle up to him, graze his chin with a finger nail, rub his chest a bit, lean in real close, kinda rub your tits up against him and whisper in his ear, real softy and breathy...












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    I use to be a big fan of non penetrative sex and that doesn't have to mean oral sex.It sounds like you've already set rules with your boyfriend which is always a good idea. My first time sex basically creeped up on me from a heavy petting session.

    Rather than relying on a bloke to teach you about sex its probably something you should be taking charge off. It takes a while to get used to being touched intimitely by a bloke, for me it was even a bit of a shock :uhh:when I saw one naked for the first time, they do take some getting used to :)

    I personally think guys like to hear you moaning, you can actually use this a means of communication, to let him know when he's doing something right. If you want to strip down that far, a nice set of bra and knickers can be a turn on.

    I don't know if you have had any experience with this yet but guys do sometimes lose control of themselves, so whether you pretend not to notice or just laugh it off You shouldn't be shocked.

    I don't really buy into the whole oral sex isn't really sex arguement. but mutual masturbation might be an option (does that sound clinical) it can be quite fufilling sexually to masturbate yourself while snogging (it definitely beats doing it alone)

    anyway those are just a few thoughts

    good luck
     
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    Just do what comes natural and and try releasing your inhibitions a little. I'm not sure how far things are going but take the initiative and try unzipping his fly one time and jerk him off or give him a bj. The same can be applied to your clothes as well, instead of waiting for him to move take his hand and guide it under your shirt or down your pants. I agree with sarah that moaning softly or heavy breathing is always sexy. Oral sex is is great fun and a big part of foreplay/petting. Have fun.
     
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    "sit."


    "stay."


    "roll over."



    There .... tricks.
     
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    One of my current favorites...get totally nude but make him leave his clothes on, and give him a lap-dance!

    BD
     
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    Thanks for the responses so far guys and girls!

    We have touched on oral sex but I'm very new at it so any tips for that would be good. Last time he came on my boobs and told me later than no girl had let him do that before and it was good. Are there any more things like that which could be really exciting for him?
     
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    Cool...where were the women like you when I was 22? ;)

    My wife gives a mind-bending blowjob, so I'll tell you what she often does. Start really slow, kiss, lick, and rub your way down his body from face to crotch. Pull his shirt, pants and underwear off yourself. Kiss and lick all around his crotch (I shave and trim so it'll be a nicer experience for my wife, plus shaved skin is more sensitive...I figure she wants to give a BJ, not floss...:D), the perenium (area between the scrotum and anus) is a really nice sensitive spot, as is the area where the legs attach to the body, and the scrotum itself. Flatten your tongue and lick gently, not hard with a pointed tongue. If he's completely clean, feel free to lick his anus, there's a lot of nerve-endings and it's a sensitive area as well for both men and women (actually true of all the above!). Lick the shaft of his dick like it's a big lollipop or ice cream cone...the underside is much more sensitive than the top. Lick all around a lot before actually taking his dick in your mouth...make him anticipate that, and it just makes it all the better. Wrap your hands around the base of his dick, and take the head into your mouth. Keep your tongue soft and lick all around and suck, slide your mouth up and down over his dick as far as you can go without gagging yourself (leave a little margin for error there...it should be an enjoyable experience for you as well as him). I love it when my wife takes my dick out of her mouth and rubs it around on her face...that feels really nice, and she's got a lovely face so there's something extremely erotic about it to me (don't know if that will be true of your BF, but I'd say likely). If he likes it and you aren't opposed to doing it, you can lubricate a finger with your own spit and gently slide it into his anus...about 2 inches in and toward the front side is his prostate gland, you can gently massage that while sucking his dick (you can put a condom on your finger if you want to, nothing wrong with that...just don't lose it!). I'd say most slow and sensually...regardless of what you might see on porn flicks, slow feels better than a bunch of fast bobbing. Keep everything in your mouth soft, his dick head is as sensitive as your clitoris, so rubbing the head against your teeth or hard palette won't feel very good...just holding it in your warm mouth feels wonderful, and you can stroke the rest of his dick with your hands while the head is in your mouth. I also love how it feels to have my dick between my wife's breasts...that's such a nice feeling spot, soft and warm. I like it when my wife keeps changing things up rather than doing the exact same thing, but not everyone does, so ask him what he likes...try different things and ask him if he likes it or no, or ask him afterwards what parts he liked best.

    Has he given you oral sex? I love eating pussy...it turns me on to have my wife writhing and moaning from me using my mouth as much as it does for her to give me a BJ, maybe even more. I love making her come from mouth, and love having her humping my face. So, if he likes it, after you blow him really good, climb on up and fuck his face! Or you guys can do a 69...you blow him while he eats you. That's one of my favorites.

    Some other thoughts...you could always, out of nowhere, strip naked and start rubbing yourself and masturbating. I'm sure he'll love watching, and you can always tell him "come on and help me over here!". (My wife would get my face buried in her crotch without needing to ask though!)

    Also, I love it when my wife talks dirty to me. I think on our 4th or 5th date, we ended up kissing and dry-humping on the couch...I remember her telling me in a whispery voice "I'm going to fuck you until you can't remember your name". And the next weekend, boy did she (and so did I). We both had carpet burns for two weeks. :brow

    I also used to absolutely love it when I'd walk in the door and she'd push me down on the couch immediately and start doing me...those were the good ole days (impossible to do that now with a kid!)

    BD
     
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    The fact that you are here, with an open mind to broadening your experience is a huge turn-on for most men. My main turn on is suprises and being caught off-guard. Starting something when/where he isn't expecting it.

    I can't add much to BJ, that Bass hasn't already covered. I will reiterate the importance of not getting too rough...it's easy to get carried away...rushing...and it feels like you are trying to pull it off.

    The finish is a big deal for me. I want to see it, and that's probably why he liked cumming on you. If you're open to it, let him see it in your mouth and on your face.

    For you, don't be afraid to tell him what you want, and what feels good. Sharing fantasies is good way to get revved up.

    Good luck!
     
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    Oral sex and an aphrodesiac!

    The highest form of ORAL SEX is good communication and the greatest APHRODESIAC is love!
     
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    Agreed on that...I absolutely love sexual surprises! I really dig it when my wifes shows up downstairs in some lingerie that I haven't seen yet, or with a plan to do something we haven't done before. That's an instant turn-on.

    I also like giving sexual surprises...new toys, coming up with a plan to try something new, etc. Funny story...once we were driving down the interstate returning from a trip. My wife was driving, I was bored with the ride, so I started pulling my clothes off. Within about 15 minutes, I was completely naked in the passenger's seat...my wife was quite turned on by this...we almost had to pull over somewhere to bang it out before we got home!

    BD
     
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    Wow! Now ya got me excited :brow
     
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    Especially the "roll over"!