Talking dirty and sexting.

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  1. Horneyhusband64

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    How do I dirty talk and or sext?
    My wife sez I'm terribly at both but I know that she thoroughly enjoyed both.
    Is there a way that somebody could teach me? Or I can learn?
     
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    Hmmm
    Let's see some examples of what she's complaining about. Do you talk dirty to her, you know, in person?
     
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    I have tried to talk dirty to her but she says it doesn't sound right I don't know if I need to try like a different voice. Or I don't know.
    I mean I tell her all the time and maybe this is why she doesn't feel like I talk dirty to her because I tell her all the time, baby is be amazing to eat you out right now.,, or I love how you taste tell you are between my lips again. Just things like that.
     
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    Hmmmmm, maybe make it sensual and not so dirty?
     
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    What do u mean by sensual?
     
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    More romantic than say hardcore.
    My other suggestion is to flat out ask her what she likes/wants.
     
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    Great advice. One thing I'm sure of is that I don't know till I ask. Then listen!
     
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    ...and maybe avoid things that sound like aggressively bad pick-up lines.
     
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    If you feel awkward saying it, I guarantee you it sounds awkward! You have to be yourself. If it doesn't flow naturally, maybe start with just texting her telling her how much you want her and things like that. You'll get more comfortable in time. And "eat you out" isn't the best word choice. ;)
     
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    Maybe watch some soft porn, read an erotic story?
     
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    I enjoy reading erotic storys. And that's what I have learned how to do most of my stuff in bed.
     
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    I have asked her and she has tried to tell me before. But my brain dose not understand it. It's like she is speaking a different language.

    And I asked he the other day. And I'm pretty sure she made it sound like she is tired of trying.
    But I don't want to just give up on her.
     
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    Don't give up on her, but at the same time don't try too hard. It can become a big turn off.
     
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    Okay, don't force anything in fact I wouldn't change much if what is coming from you is honest, honesty is really everything. If you are looking for pointers that is a little bit hard to give because none of us know what she likes or what she is looking for. Women are individuals too, I can speak from experience that personally I like a man that knows how to talk dirty but be clever enough to say things romantically that is hot to me. Being dirty but sensual not every man can do that.

    Just talk to her, not necessarily ask "What turns you on?" but try to nudge the conversation sexually in private by putting out ideas, and listen and watch close to how she reacts you will get an idea eventually of her wants with sexting on that.

    If you ask what turns her on, that is a turn off to me, you learn that stuff by getting to know one another. And she might think you don't know what you are doing.

    Also pick out a really dirty romance novel that is written well and try to find the intimate moments and look at how they approach it most are sensual and dirty at the same time. Do it privately if you fear your manhood is in question reading it, which you should be confident that it wouldn't be.
     
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    So I she and I are in an open relationship. And she had a friend'swith benefits. And one thing that she told him that she really like about fucking around with him was he was an ass but the kind of ass I am to her. So I don't know what that means.
    And she liked how rough he would fuck her, and fuck with her. And I have tried to be kinda rough with her. But I'm afraid of hurting her.
     
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    Then don't hurt her, rough sex is about attitude and you should not be worried about what another guy has done to her. Sex is not meant to be some competition and what matters is what is pleasurable to you both.You're worrying about an expectation you're setting for yourself - just pay attention to how she reacts.
     
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    Wish I could help but I am not very good either.
     
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    My wife told me one time to give her 12 inches and make it hurt, so I fucked her twice and hit her with a brick. She did not like it. :confused:
     
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    She'd hit you with the brick after she asked for 12" and you tried!
     
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    she was madcause he only fucked her twice...must have only been 6 inches. LOL


    (sorry bro!. lol :) )
     
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