Syness/Confidence

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  1. Pride

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    i was wondering if a guy could be shy yes still seem confident? Like as in how a woman sees a guy.

    Like there are certain situations i will be very shy. Like not froze up shy. But just to where i wont say a lot or get up and do a bunch of things.

    Like either around certain people or at like say a party. I usually start to lighten up more and more as i get to know people. But i often go to parties where i might know only one person or sometimes NO ONE. So i will sit back and kind of get a feel for things.

    Or even just around certain girls i might be a little shy at first. But does that totally show the guy has no confidence?...

    Im the type of person that i can be either the life of the party and crazy as can be. Or i can just kind of sit back chilled. Not saying too much or anything for a while.


    Im just wondering if a guy can be both at the same time sort of thing?



    And when women say they LOVE confidence...what kind of confidence are you talking about specifically....is it like certain situations or something...
     
  2. Bluesy

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    There are a lot of women who think shyness in men is cute. And shyness and confidence aren't necessarily linked. I forget how many studies have reconfirmed that some people are just born naturally shy. Social anxiety is a horse of a different color. If you do eventually warm up, that's fine.

    We all have our differerent moods...and some people just have a wider range of them, and they fluctuate more often. As long as you don't feel that your social life is being impeded by these things, it's nothing to worry about it.

    Men who genuinely believe they have self-worth and treat themselves, and others, with respect. Men who believe in their abilities, who have opinions and voice them, who can stand up for themselves...and all done with a certain grace that I guess you could call "gentlemanly". That's what I think of whenever I think of a confident man, anyway.
     
  3. scorpio_nymph

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    first off, you need to get off that whole shyness thing 'cause if i was in a room with you for 2 seconds i'd be subtly dropping hints that i want to rip your clothes off and then if the hinting didn't work i'd probably just go ahead and start trying to do it.
    but to answer your question, i don't care at all how shy a guy naturally/usually is as long as he has the confidence to approach me if he wants to and the intelligence to engage me in conversation.
    that is all.
     
  4. MikeDog

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    I think in sexual situations girls want even a shy guy to lead more.
     
  5. redorn

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    yeah, part of "confidence" is being willing to lead the girl and take responsibility for taking things further (translation:having the balls to go for that first kiss instead of worrying she might reject you)

    it is possible to learn how to not appear so shy, especially things like eye contact and posture. If you practice looking people in the eye (really, really looking. to practice, always try and work out what colour someones eyes are when you're talking to them) it gives a really good impression of being confident. If you can do it right the effects are hilariously effective (the random girl at the party comes to talk to you with a silly chat up line, not the other way around)

    oh, and everything bluesy said is awesomely true :)
     
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    i am pretty shy sometimes, but i think that girls only see shyness as cute when it's a guy with an innocent boylike appearance. since i don't have that, i am just seen as boring, dull, and lacking in confidence.

    i really hope that it isn't true that some people are just naturally shy. i'd really like to stop being shy.
     
  7. cbrmale

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    I am like you, but I have self-analysed myself. I am naturally shy in large gatherings, especially with lots of strangers. In one-on-one situations with strangers, I naturally sociable and very confident (and most women love confidence). It took a long time for me to make this discovery, the man who can easily charm women and yet be terribly shy at the same time. I suspect you are like me, and don't enjoy socialising with lots of strangers.
     
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    I am very shy in large groups of people unless i know them all. It only takes one person i don't know to make me feel uncomfortable. But one-on-one i don't have a problem at all.
     
  9. Skoblin

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    what's with anal?

    Man...if you have to ask that question then you apparently never have tried it. I was seduced by a woman who was almost 30 years older than me when I was 14. She introduced to both oral and anal. I have to say, being in a woman's tight rear end gives me the most intense orgasms - especially if she is getting into it as well. The biggest turn on is the look in their face - usually a combination of pleasure, pain and lust. Crazy.
     
  10. Buffalo204

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    Er... I think you ended up in the wrong subject!!:D:D