Swingers clubs

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  1. WizardTongue

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    Anyone ever been to a Swingers club? What was it like? Thinking of taking my wife when she gets back from Vegas.
     
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    It's one of those things that we've talked about doing for years.. But everytime we get serious about doing it, real life kicks us square in the face.. And we have to put playtime on the back burner.. We got on "swinglifestyle" met a few couples online there, and then had to cancel every time..
    But , like you, I'd love to hear some others experiences too..
     
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    Yeah we are looking at going soon just to maybe put on a show or swap with another sexy couple. Who knows what that night will hold for us. But when we go I will post some stuff about it.
    [dE="12barblues, post: 552358, member: 43607"]It's one of those things that we've talked about doing for years.. But everytime we get serious about doing it, real life kicks us square in the face.. And we have to put playtime on the back burner.. We got on "swinglifestyle" met a few couples online there, and then had to cancel every time..
    But , like you, I'd love to hear some others experiences too..[/QUOTE]
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    I've been to none in Illinois with an ex (now) girlfriend. It was the first time for either of us. It was amazing and I hope to do it again with my wife.
    The place was pretty " classy " . Large and set up very well. One large common area where there refreshments and byob. Pool table, dance floor with a pole. Many tvs with various porn going. A dj. At the beginning after most had arrived they had a welcome announcement and introduced any newcomers with were welcomed with claps and hellos and lots of smiles. We mingled and chatted then explored many different rooms , private, group, viewing areas for voyeur and exhibition, fetishes rooms. Condoms everywhere. It was very diverse. People of all ages and walks of life. We had a fantastic time. Some people just mingled and watched others did just about everything in front of everyone. ..and yes there were a couple little arguments within couples who obviously did not get on the same page before going lol but a very small percentage. Great time indeed.
     
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    So this would be a good place to tell us about your relationship before you went ...ground rules you may have set? Had either of you had experience w this before? What was the discussion like when you got home that nite? Any residual effects from that night?
     
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    Makes sense. I didn't want to ramble too much in my first answer.
    Relationship before was pretty much an open one with good communication. There was some vetoe power on both sides. Any person that either of us had their eye on to play separately we had to bring it up to each other same went for an individual or couple that was to join us. Before the swingers club together we pretty much only soft swinged together (no penetration or oral sex) any t I me we played alone we would have to come home and tell the person about it....yeah that was fun and always ended up in sex.
    As for the club , neither of us had done it before. Rules before was condoms if we were to penetrate. Both held a veto right. As for what was okay in sex , ha d to be same room.... that's about it lol. We did not have penis vagina penetration but lots of oral all around. We played with two couples in rooms where people could watch and played in the orgy room. It was a blast.
    On the way home it was like wow lol that just happened. No real issues at all except we sort of wished we did a few things but both were apprehensive at times worried about each other's feelings which is good. Never got around to going back. Met some people there we kept in touch with but did not get around to meeting up. Broke up months later due to difference s that had nothing to do with sex.
     
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    how do these clubs deal with the age range ? I would not think a 20 year old female would be attracted to a 50+ year old ???
     
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    From websites that I have looked at for clubs around here the age range was 21 and up. Median age range is normally between 35 - 45. So all kinds of age geoyps in these clubs.

    As for rules we have already talked about it and these are ours:
    We came together and we leave together.
    Both have veto power.
    Happens (whatever does) in the same room.
    Condoms at all times unless just oral.
    Above all have fun.
     
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    I have always wondered about them but that it..Just wondered!
     
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    So, you would say you were in love with your partner at the time? I'm asking because when this discussion comes up people tend to say " well they must not love each other , if they can do THAT"... But I almost feel the opposite to be true . I love my GF and trust in our love fully. Which makes it possible to do things sexually with others.. ( not the other way around)
     
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    Yes we were in love and yes just like anything I am proud of I am proud to show it off. It's not for everyone I know and even if you are proud not everyone gets to share. If the couple is on the same page it's amazing and makes sense...do you build a " man cave" and not show it to anyone? Do you get jealous of a dildo or your mate fantasizing? Or masturbating? Well then it's not for you. I know it's not that simple bit it's not that simple to explain either
     
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    Yes , I know. That's why I was picking your brain on the topic.. You've taken it a step farther than sluttyfairy and I have.. I envy you a bit..
     
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    I'm planning on going May 30th with my FWB! He's had some experience swinging... With a previous relationship and we did the MFM a few weeks ago! I've been told it's all very respectful ... We already know each other's boundaries and we won't do anything the other isn't ok with! He has a fantasy to fuck me in front of everyone and then offer my freshly fucked pussy up for others to enjoy either orally or otherwise!! There is a common room for mingling with other couples and a pool table and dance floor... It's byob... Then private rooms and themed rooms..so I'm kinda excited about it!! I've got a fantasy to have multiple loads of cum on my tits... So I think that will be entirely possible!! ;-)
     
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    ok question for you. Do you think that a Swingers Club is a good place to start or should my wife and I start somewhere else?
     
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    Depends on your wife's desires and comfort level?? If she is not real open and showy...maybe find a couple you both like and try it at home first? The swingers club.. Women dress sexy and men it's business casual ..women will change into sexy lingerie later in the evening...but some times people just go to observe.. If she finds it intimidating?? But it's a good place to go and chat and find other couples you feel comfortable with! It's all about chemistry and what you both are attracted to... Gotta be something you both will enjoy...
     
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    I married a stripper. well she was when we met!!! Needless to say we are not afraid of showing anybody anything. I just sent her a video last night of me getting off since she isn't home.
     
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    No problems then!! How awesome!! She'll get a lot of men turning heads...the club we will attend has a stripper pole and the ladies can try to impress on it... Lots of sexy dancing going on... You will have no problems finding couples that will want to play with you!! Both the men and the women will want a piece of that!! ;-)
     
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    We actually cleared a dance floor at a company party once for dancing "to sexual". So I was told anyways. Her ankle was on my shoulder and I was grinding her hips and then i spun her around into her being bent over in front of me without missing a beat. But that was over 10 years ago now lol
     
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    Sounds very hot!! I don't think I could move like that anymore!! But something I'd love to watch! ;-)
     
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    Note to self: check for naughtys post on may 31st...
     
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