[Ask a Girl] SURVEY! What's "normal" and what's not?

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  1. TMade

    TMade New Member

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    So the wife and I have been having our differences. I have a very high sex drive, everything in the open and experimental type sexual personality. She is..well, not so much. We have "good" sex but nothing earth shattering in my opinion (she begs to differ otherwise and says she is completely satisfied with how things are).

    Here's what I'd like to know. With a simple 10 for normal down to a 1 for not normal (and any number in between on the scale), how do you rate the following sex acts with your significant other (presently or most recent if single)? Remember, I'm not asking if you've done them, done them regularly or not or want to do them or despise the thought of them, I'm only asking if you think they are normal or not normal.

    Thanks in advance to all the lovely ladies who answer this for me.

    1. Fantasizing outside the bedroom about things such as threesomes, being with another woman, being with 2 men, being watched, etc).
    2. Food in bed during foreplay
    3. Having sex somewhere in the house other than the bed, sofa or shower
    4. Wearing a blindfold in bed during foreplay/sex
    5. Being tied up or tying him up in bed
    6. Enjoy having cum on your body (pussy, tits, ass, face, etc)
    7. Giving a spontaneous blow job outside the bedroom
    8. Giving a hand job while he is driving
    9. Giving a blow job while he is driving
    10. Thinking about other people/past lovers while having sex
    11. Wearing high heels during sex
    12. Always undressing yourself instead of letting him do it
    13. Masturbating
    14. Taking his cum in your mouth (spit or swallow, doesn't matter)
    15. Recording short clips on camcorder/taking pictures and deleting them right after
    16. Sex texting
    17. Having phone sex
    18. Facetime/webcam sex
    19. Watching erotic or porn movies together
    20. Bringing toys into play (dildos, vibrators, cockrings, bullets, etc)
    21. Talking dirty during foreplay/sex
    22. Having sex in a secluded public place
    23. Having sex in an open public place
    24. Disclosing the best parts of sex with previous partners
    25. Wanting to read the 50 Shades trilogy
     
  2. hot_mess

    hot_mess New Member

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    Most of them if not all are "normal" whatever that is.
    except 8 and 9 might be a bit dangerous bit again it depends on the driver...

    13- if that's not normal I don't know what is ;)

    love phone sex

    22 and 23 are fantasies of mine...

    Read fifty shades of grey and loved it ( not for the writing quality obviously- in fact people are saying it is poorly written grammar wise- but it is great sexual wise) and the BDSM doesn't go to the extreme pain wise
     
  3. TMade

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    Thanks for the reply. Have a stellar weekend!

     
  4. AGFUNK

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    They are all quite normal. However constantly thinking of others during sex really isn't a good thing.
     
  5. Dragon_Fire

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    Everything on the list is perfectly normal, although handjobs/blowjobs while driving can be very dangerous and as AGFUNK suggested, constantly thinking of someone else during sex is not a good sign.

    On the other hand, not enjoying much of the stuff on the list is also perfectly normal too.
     
  6. JMCN112110

    JMCN112110 New Member

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    All are normal except 10. That could start a lot of problems.
     
  7. MrShoes

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    I suppose what you define as normal. Normal could mean just sex - both in nude having sex. All of the above I suppose are not the "norm" but if you like doing them then alls good. I suppose "normal" can be defined by what most people do in that case then I suppose most of the above are not normal but I would do any.

    You probably know my fetish is black patent stilletos and stockings / bondage. Bought my wife these over a year ago she has worn once reluctantly and that was only after I asked, I cant be bothered as I feel embarrased asking as she maake me feel like a pervert she doesnt say so but can tell she thinks it. Reading your list your husband is one lucky man
     
  8. RainLevity

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    It was just easier to do it this way- I'm not sure how you wanted numbers. I put the number in parens. I thought about how likely it is that most couples you meet have done the thing, and used that as my basis. DH and I have done most of these things, but I don't know if we're what you'd call "normal', lol.

    1. Fantasizing outside the bedroom about things such as threesomes, being with another woman, being with 2 men, being watched, etc).
    NORMAL (10)
    2. Food in bed during foreplay
    NOT SO NORMAL (4)
    3. Having sex somewhere in the house other than the bed, sofa or shower
    NORMAL (10)
    4. Wearing a blindfold in bed during foreplay/sex
    NORMALISH? (7)
    5. Being tied up or tying him up in bed
    NORMAL (8)
    6. Enjoy having cum on your body (pussy, tits, ass, face, etc)
    NORMAL (8)
    7. Giving a spontaneous blow job outside the bedroom
    NORMAL (7)
    8. Giving a hand job while he is driving
    NORMAL (7)
    9. Giving a blow job while he is driving
    NOT SAFE!!! (TRIED IT, LOL) (6)
    10. Thinking about other people/past lovers while having sex
    PROBABLY FAIRLY NORMAL IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP, less so later (8)
    11. Wearing high heels during sex
    NORMAL but not every time or anything (10)
    12. Always undressing yourself instead of letting him do it
    NORMAL unless it's an issue (10)
    13. Masturbating
    NORMAL (10)
    14. Taking his cum in your mouth (spit or swallow, doesn't matter)
    NORMAL (9)
    15. Recording short clips on camcorder/taking pictures and deleting them right after
    NORMAL (9)
    16. Sex texting
    NORMAL if you're younger or not together a lot (7)
    17. Having phone sex
    NORMAL again, if not together much (7)
    18. Facetime/webcam sex
    NORMAL (IF YOU DON'T LIVE TOGETHER, I GUESS) (7)
    19. Watching erotic or porn movies together
    NORMAL (10)
    20. Bringing toys into play (dildos, vibrators, cockrings, bullets, etc)
    NORMAL (10)
    21. Talking dirty during foreplay/sex
    NORMAL (10)
    22. Having sex in a secluded public place
    NOT NORMAL (BUT FUN!) (4)
    23. Having sex in an open public place
    NOT NORMAL (REALLY FUN, BUT DANGEROUS, LOL) (2)
    24. Disclosing the best parts of sex with previous partners
    maybe NORMAL (BUT PROBABLY HEALTHY, IF DONE RIGHT) (5)
    25. Wanting to read the 50 Shades trilogy
    APPARENTLY NORMAL (IT'S A BEST SELLER) (6)
     
  9. a_high_bitch

    a_high_bitch New Member

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    I'm not even going to answer that. You know why? Because we are all weirdos. Why are you asking the opinion of a stranger on your view? I mean, I understand if your curious and what not, but we also all have our own standards of normal. Someone could find what I like completely abnormal, and I could think what they like abnormal. It really all depends on your views, and how you grew up.