Suicide is never the answer

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  1. Mittimer

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    I received a phone call a short while ago from my mother who could barely choke out that my oldest brother had killed himself. That he's been dead for no fewer then three days and they just found out.

    I can't tell you how it happened, if it was on purpose or an accidental overdose of something, just that someone I love is dead and my mother is having to bury a child.

    Suicide is never the answer. Please, if you're ever hurting that badly...call someone. Call the hotlines that are available, call your family, call 911. The world will not be a better place without you and the pain you're feeling is only temporary. The hole you leave in the hearts of those who love you will last a very long time.

    Please, spare me the talk of him being in a better place, how sorry you are for my loss or how if I need to talk, you're here. I'm just saying what I feel needs to be said.

    If you need help, please seek it..
     
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    I hear you. Thanks for sharing this message.
     
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    Very brave post Mittimer, and I don't mean that in any sort of trivial manner whatsoever. The only difference between your brother and me is that the ambulance always got to me in time. I should really talk about this more openly, but it's scary.

    To everyone else here, there is nothing that can't be fixed. No matter how bad it is, there is always a way out. Your life is so precious - never take it from yourself.

    http://www.samaritans.org/
     
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    So very sorry to hear this Mitt. Please accept my sincere condolences at this time. xx:)
     
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    sorry for your loss,wish you and your family well
     
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    Oh goodness how tragic and heartbreak. I am so sorry for your loss :(
     
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    I understand had a couple brothers that insisted on taking themselves that direction with substance abuse. :(
     
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    Blessings from above to comfort you and yours Mitt. :(
    I too have lost an older brother this way. Sad knowing everyone was available, but no one ever knows...when...
     
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    I too lost my best friend. It's very painful
    ((Hugs))
     
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    Truly sorry.
     
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    Thank you everyone who's replied or liked my post. I appreciate all the kind words that have been left.

    The day has been incredibly long and will only get longer. Thank you for being a momentary retreat.
     
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    Our thoughts are with you :(
     
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    As shocking as it is tragic. Mitt, you're a strong woman. I know you will come through this. Keep your head up. Celebrate his life. Even at this hard time. The good memories always help. We love ya girl. :)
     
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    Mitt, I was lucky my son at 16 tried to kill him self, if not for my younger son he would have seceded , I don't tell this very often but I'm glad you brought it up, I'm am so sorry for I can't imagine your pain but I still cry when I think what might have been, I think about how my youngest son deals with taking the shot gun from his brother, I hope by your strength of telling your story maybe at least one person will be saved, one family not hurt. My prayers and thought are with you and your family. God bless.
     
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    My friend recently lost her 24 year old son. He went out onto a ledge to try and save a friend who was trying to commit suicide. They both fell. The other man survived, my friends son did not.
    It such a terrible tragedy. Heartbreaking.
    Suicide isn't the answer :(
     
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    Besides calling a hotline, something one should do is visiting a psychiatrist. Depression is a problem with the chemistry in one's brain. Psychiatrists can medicate you for that, attenuating symptoms. My heart goes to you and your family, Mitt.
     
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    Big Hug.....
     
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    My condolences to you and your family. I am truly sorry to hear this.