Submissive relationship

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  1. AJP

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    Who out there in SF land has a submissive partner that just does as told sexually?
    I would love to hear how you got there.
     
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    My husband does!

    I don't know why but I've always tended to be on the submissive side. I have a very eager to please personality, I guessing that's where stemmed from.
     
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    So wait, you have the submissive side Shelby or your husband/partner does?
     
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    I'm the submissive one.

    He asked who had a submissive partner, my husband does, meaning me. I probably could have worded it better...
     
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    My husband is my 24/7 owned and collard submissive.
     
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    It would be great if my wife felt more dominant in the bedroom. I would love for her to take control and really boss me around (in the bedroom only :p)
     
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    Dominance is more than just in the bedroom for us.
     
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    Don't think that would work in our relationship.
     
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    There is zero chance of me ever doing that
     
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    Equal footing here....
     
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    Same here but whatever floats your boat.
     
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    I would say we do both.... depends on the mood...
     
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    Without at the moment, but met one through friends, old high school acquaintance turned out to be submissive and was a non stop orgasm fest with her, and met 2 online. And just a bit of advice/FYI to the guys who are all up for meeting someone submissive... You MUST be in touch with her emotions AND be able to respond with caring and loving treatment throughout (especially after). If you can't do that, it's just abuse then. The "play" can be rough but you HAVE to know how to bring it back to giving her the emotional acceptance and making her feel small but safe, and sexy and wanted(personally) not just physically.
     
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    If you can't do that, it won't work for starters and you could end up hurting someone and that's NOT cool at all. (Sorry soapbox away now)
     
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    My wife is very submissive. Always was.

    I am not the most dominant man alive (I lost my virginity to her when I was 26) but she loves me all the same.
     
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    I was raised in very conservative households where the man has last word ad it was normal to me to get into such a marriage. I was a submissive wife to my dominant husband and do what he told me to do. We was having a fairly traditional marriage. I stay home with the kids and he goes out and work. He was leader of our home.

    Because I submit to my ex husband, I was feel confident in his care and love and this gives me sexual confidence as well.
     
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    I see, but I bet times must have been rough during parts of those 28 years.
     
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    Yes, it was the time when i only wanted romantic, tu hug me, hold my hand etc..but i was rase in that way and that was my duty as a wife
     
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    Has your thinking changed a lot about men in general since your husband left?
    Are you thinking different romantic thoughts, or is that everything you learned since you were young is a totally different chapter?

     
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    i dont understand...i am a submissive by the nature, that will never change and i dont have anything against that, i just sometimes want to be just a romantic, just sometimes...i love the please but just sometimes i want to feel a little romantic..maybe i will find that
     
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