Strip clubs

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  1. Slarty1080

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    I occasionally (once or twice a year) visit a strip club with a couple of friends. Apart from the obvious attraction of the ladies on the stage, I find that it often generates interesting or unexpected situations or raises interesting questions that cause pause for thought.

    I would be interested to hear other people’s experiences and how they feel about such establishments including (but not limited to) those who don’t like them, to discuss why they feel as they do and explore the arguments in an open and non-confrontational way.

    To start the ball rolling here are a few of my recent experiences:

    Being chatted up by a girl in a strip club – which was kind of weird and amazing at the same time and started me thinking why is she here? Is she a prostitute? A perspective dancer? A lesbian? Is she an official checking the club out? All of which I think I was able to rule out. In the end I concluded that she was just a liberally minded woman who was in the club with a few male and female friends having a laugh!

    Seeing one of the girls take a guy into a private booth who judging from appearances probably suffered from Downs’s syndrome to some degree.

    Having a guy who I had never met before take a picture of me and one of his friends in the club sitting whilst we were drinking - with pole in the background (no dancers on stage or in the photo).

    Chatting to strippers who seemed very friendly/down to earth types that gave every impression they were very happy working there and actually enjoyed their jobs.

    Reading that some of the greatest feminist opponents of strip clubs (and not all feminists are opposed to strip clubs) reserve their most vitriolic attacks for dancers who express views like the one above and who don’t conform to the need to be rescued expectation.
     
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    only went once as part of a fraternity hazing night. Had fun but for the most part it has never been something I wanted to spend money on. Didn't even go to strip clubs for bachelor parties. I don't have any particular aversion to them, just don't have interest in it.
     
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    have often frequented such establishments only to keep my fellow collogues company you understand :cool:

    ask away if I can enlighten in anyway :D
     
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    I don't see that strip clubs have much to do with sex, if they are performing within the law. I don't bother. If I wanted a brothel, I went to a brothel.
     
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    I went to one for a bachelorette party when I was 22-23. The guys were gross. I might appreciate it more now since my inner whore was released.

    Follow up question (of you don't mind).... Do you go with friends or your SO?
    One girl used to go with her husband in our group. I never understood that.
     
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    I've never gone to one nor do I ever plan on going. I think they are nasty and dirty. I don't buy into the whole "I'm doing this to pay through college thing" and when you hear that there is a strip club in your state that a pregnant stripper (yes you read that right) fell off a pole and got knocked out and fractured her skull...well that makes me loose hope in humanity.
     
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    To each his own.
     
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    I am really neutral about them. Over priced drinks and unwanted attention from LEO's make me see no reason to go. If I want to see titties other than mrsbikers I'll go to a biker bar or rally!
     
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    I have gone quite frequently. Because I like it. If you choose a reasonably decent place you will find little to no illegal activities or desperate drug addicts as some people seem to fear. One girl told us that she works there because she has a kinky side, others think it's a good job, a few probably shouldn't work there, and they usually quit quickly.

    Some actually put on a great dance show, and they are never ever (in my experience) like Demi Moore in "Striptease",( i.e. desperate women who hate it but are somehow amazingly good at it). They put on a great show because they love it, and it shows. Miserable women don't make good strippers, and luckily I have seen very few women who seemed miserable.

    A political party in Norway (where I'm from) recently proposed to make strip clubs illegal. They started a research group to uncover their nasty side, but found nothing really questionable. Politicians being politicians, this didn't change their minds of course.

    Not sure what the problem is with the guy with Down's syndrome getting a lap dance, unless you think they were taking advantage of him somehow?

    I also have to wonder; why do people seemingly love to criticize strip clubs, while most people have more or less given up on criticizing porn? Much of the hard core porn out there is a way nastier business. In strip clubs girls dance naked. Big deal.
     
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    I enjoy strip clubs. That being said they are not all good, some do have pregnant women falling off polls. (Wow, lol) I have been the best man 5 times, and in 9 weddings total, so I've been to a whole bunch of strip clubs. When you are single and got money they can be alot of fun, the girls flirt and sit on your lap, and tease you on occasion. This is fun, but don't lose sight of the fact that they are there to make money. Ultimately your wallet is what they want to flirt with the most. I never went to a strip club expecting anything more than an amazing view of some lovely shaved pussies, and a few beers. I think some guys expect to get a hand job, or more and that just doesn't happen, unless your going to the sleazy part of town. I have gotten real phone numbers from strippers, and a few dates. I didn't ask, they offered. Fun girls but no lasting relationships. I don't think I would never take a girlfriend to one, unless she was really into it. I prefer to go with some of my buddies, but have gone solo to a club. Going in a group the strippers will work all of you, if she gives one guy a lap dance she will try to give each of you one. Going solo I've often more talk and flirting and less drinking my wallet dry. :)
     
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    Some female family members took me to one for my 16th bday when we lived in NM ( I looked older)

    The Texas Giggalos were there. I remember one guy named " Lightning".... He pulled me up and gave me a long French kiss .... Now that's a present I didn't mind !! Lol

    That's the only time I have ever been to a strip club.
     
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    Well fair enough - not to do with the sex act itself - but when an attractive young woman wants to put her naked breasts within an inch of your face I think there is a certain sexual element to it not to mention a testosterone and adrenaline rush.

    Shame about the gross guys - I guess its pot luck and you got unlucky - why not try again to see what your inner whore thinks (lol). I usually go with friends. My wife don't seem to mind me going occasionally provided its looking and not touching. Not sure about going with my wife. If she wanted to go once out of curiosity I wouldn't have a problem (but I don't think shes bothered, interested or worried), but it might be a bit odd on an ongoing basis. It might be interesting to go with an another woman to gauge her reaction, although that kind of scenario seems as likely as my car turning into a pumpkin.

    I would agree that the whole pregnant stripper getting knocked out thing sounds a bit ott / gross - did that really happen? or was it an urban myth? Why don't you buy the I'm doing this to pay for college bit? I'm sure there are lots of other reasons why women (or men) become strippers, but I would have thought paying for college was a common enough because they are young, probably away from home and also probably short on cash so why not?

    Interesting that you say they are nasty and dirty - the ones I have visited have always been quite clean places as for nasty well I suppose that depends on your view point / morality. What makes them nasty in your view? Would you prefer that they were closed down or is it that you just don't want to go yourself but are happy for others to? I have never been to a US strip club so I can't comment specifically perhaps they are different from those in the UK?

    Sounds bad did they make them illegal in Norway? This is what I really don't understand and part of the reason for the post. I think a lot of it has to do with religion, although I think religion has done far more harm to society than anything strip clubs or porn have.

    As for the guy with Down's syndrome - no problem from me (he certainly had a big smile on his face) but it did make me think - I wonder if he was able to keep his hands to himself? Also it made me think that sex / sexuality must pose special problems for a lot of people in his position. I believe there is even a charity set up by Tuppy Owens to help disabled people in this respect...

    lol Yes I usually come out with an empty wallet thinking who is exploiting who here?

    Wow sounds like you were having fun. I have heard that male strippers can be a bit more "touchy feely" than their female counterparts. Not sure if this is a male / female thing or if its just the fact that male strippers tend to be more often at private do's rather than clubs. That said I did go to a private do with female strippers years ago that was certainly "touchy feely".

    sorry this has become a bit of a monster post but thanks for all the responses
     
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    Slarty: no it's not illegal in Norway (yet?). We'll see. In Norway it's not about religion. It comes from the far left in politics, and is more related to hard core feminism. (We have many political parties in Norway, both on the left and right)
     
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    I went a few times with friends who wanted to go when I was 18. I was excited for about 10 seconds, then I thought, 'I've seen vaginae before, and I don't get to touch this one, nor would I actually want to. Anyone have a deck of cards, I'm bored and the beer is abysmal. Can we go home yet.' They are not my thing.
     
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    Strip clubs...

    If you find a decent one that isn't over-priced; that has dancers who want to be there; that isn't filled with skeezy sleazeball types; that is clean and well-kept then yes. I have a club that I used to frequent and still go to from time to time. The big sell for me is how relaxed and personable the whole atmosphere of a club is - if I can go there and be chill and have a good time without having to get drunk and rowdy first then it is a win. I like to think of it as seeing and talking to these women who are For Display Purposes Only - which is good every now and again. It doesn't always have to be hands-on to be sexual or enjoyable.
     
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    When I was in my 20's and single I use to go to strip clubs a lot. I even dated a few strippers during that time. A friend from work and I use to go pretty regularly. We always sat against a wall and were often pegged as cops because of that. But that wasn't a bad thing. We would get girls just sitting at our table talking between their sets. You see if you are thought to be a cop then they want to get on your good side. even when they found out we weren't cops we still got the same attention mainly because we didn't try anything and would just have good conversations. we often got free lap dances and like i said a few dates out of it. some girls were drug addicts but others were there because it was easy money job.
     
  17. CaramelLady

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    I went to a Chippendale's type of show once. That was more of an entire show rather than just a strip tease.

    I went with a few lady friends. We were all out having some drinks, a nice time. The show starts and we look over at the doorway and two of the ladies' husbands showed up. That put a damper on the evening's festivities.
     
  18. CaramelLady

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    My late husband would go sometimes. He took a lot of business trips. There were a few nights out with the other guys on occasion. I did not mind.

    If I thought I had the body for it......
     
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    Interesting. Whilst there are a lot of religiously motivated conservative anti-sex campaigners in the UK there are also some feminist involved here to but, that said, I think the feminist movement at least here is split on the issue. There are a number of feminists who don't share that view point such as Avden Carol who I have had some contact with in the past. I remember her view on porn - she said the answer to bad pornography is good pornography not no pornography.

    Well fair enough I suppose it's not to everyone's taste.

    I would agree although I am wondering if I have been lucky with the few I have been to. Perhaps if I went else where it might be a different story...

    I think I could have got myself into a lot of trouble with dating strippers in my younger days if I had had the chance. I'm happily married now so its not an issue but back then who knows. Sounds like you had fun though. :eek:)

    I think that's a bit mean. I doubt they wanted to come along out of male curiosity, it gives the impression it was more of a trust issue. Personally I would have no problem with it at all, but if there was an issue I would like to think I could discuss it and come to some sort of agreement about it. I certainly wouldn't want to turn up in person (all those dicks swinging around - not my sort of thing - no offense you understand ;0). Might have been a good idea for the ladies to tell all their other friends about the men who came to see the Chippendales. Would have though they would have got quite a lot of leg pulling from their mates.

    Well good on you I say. I would agree if I had the body for it but sadly I think those days are done!
     
  20. CaramelLady

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    I am not so sure if it was mean or to see that their wives did not get too rowdy. Plus no dicks were swinging, it was a nice clean show. :)

    I do think something was pulled later that night, not their legs.:rolleyes:

    Alas I did not have the body for it then, and most certainly not now. :oops: