Straight Guy had Gay Sex

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by singleguy24, Apr 18, 2013.

  1. singleguy24

    singleguy24 New Member

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    I was feeling incredibly horny last night and I used Grindr to meet a guy. He said he was going to blow me but it immediately escalated. I should have stopped it but I didn't. It resulted in unprotected anal sex. I am straight, have no attraction to guys whatsoever, this was just a horny mistake. Don't try to tell me I'm bi or gay....I'm not and I've never been more sure than right now. He assured me of no STD's but of course I am still worried and plan on getting tested in a few months and I am just hoping not to have anything but now I'm paranoid out of my mind. I am never going to ever do something like this again. But I guess I'm just wondering how to deal with this and if this is something I can block from my memory banks and just wondering if anyone has ever been here before.
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    I think it's too late to block it from your memory.....probably should have blocked it from your sphincter instead.....I am confused why a straight guy would want to have sex with a man?

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    Contact your doctor or a clinic on an emergency basis. In some cases, doctors start a person on an anti-viral treatment immediately, before a virus would show up on tests. Good luck.
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    Sorry, but that made me lol


    Those treatments are outrageously expensive (as in thousands of $$$) if you don't have medical insurance (and you'd better check with your insurance to make sure they cover it if you do).
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    If your straight why did you reply to a guy saying he would blow you?
    Im a major horndog and that wouldnt even cross my mind if i was looking for some release.
    And if your bi who cares. And if your sure your not and that proved it well good for you. Just take it as a experiment and move on.
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    Honestly, if you wanted to have an experience with another man (and it sounds like you did), there are better ways you could have gone about it.

    I really hope your medical tests come back okay, and I hope you are safer in the future. I would also advise that you not rule out the possibility that you may be bisexual. We've come a long way in society, but there's still a lot of shame. The reality is that you are probably not 100% straight.

    I know there are "straight" girls who have kissed more girls than I have and I'm openly attracted to other women, so I understand sexuality is more a spectrum than a clearly defined thing.

    Please don't tell people not to call you bi or gay, as it reinforces the idea that non-heterosexual orientations are bad/wrong, and it stigmatizes those of us who DO id ourselves as such. Something to keep in mind.

    Best of luck to you, hope it's all okay.
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    Well, there's no real need to tell you that you're straight or gay. Most people, I'm being serious, register somewhere in the bisexual area of the two extremes. It's actually completely impossible to be straight or gay. We, however, use areas of percent "error" to define people who are MOSTLY straight or MOSTLY gay as either extreme of the spectrum. Having gay sexual experiences that happen because you were in a MMF threesome, in gay porn, got drunk with a buddy one night and fooled around is one thing. But it seems like you actively sought out a male. Why not seek a female? Why use an app/web service specifically designed for finding gay/bi males?

    A horny mistake? I'd say that I'm very comfortable with my sexuality. I prefer women BY FAR; but there's still some curiosity reserved for males. I've been "piss" drunk before and have been in the same exited state you describe. I've even been at a club where the majority of people there were either on some kind of illegal drug and/or also drunk. I was approached by males and females alike. However, I didn't kiss anyone, I didn't go down on anyone, and most of all I wasn't "accidentally" sodomized by any of them. Later on, I did find a pill of anonymous donation in my pocket.

    If your situation is real, I'm not trying to make light of it. It's just a very odd occurrence. Not only that; but it's an incredibly foolish. R-e-s-t-r-a-i-n-t.

    As for your STD/STI concern, anti-viral treatments are usually for people who already have the virus. It is expensive, and if it's used on someone who may have already encountered the virus it may not even help. HIV, unlike some of the other viral STD's, may have a long incubation period until it turns into AIDS; but it's very resilient to anti-viral washes because of the multiple strains. That isn't to suggest that you should do nothing.
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    Actually, there's an "emergency" treatment for those who believe they may have been exposed. You don't have to wait for a test that says you already have the virus (and in fact, it'd be too late by then to make use of the treatment).
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    As to the straight/gay/bi debate I always like to refer to how comedian Ron White put it as he tells the story of proving to his homophobic friend that he could prove that even he had a little "gay" in him.

    I can prove that even you have a little gay in you.

    "No way in hell, not a gay bone in my body"

    Well, do you watch porn?

    "Yeah sure I do from time to time"

    Do you only watch porn with women in it or do you also watch porn with men in it?

    "Oh, I'll watch a man and a woman doing it"

    Now, when you're watching porn with a man and woman doing it, do you like to see some out of shape ugly guy with a little half hard pecker or a young hung stud giving it to her?

    "Hell, I wanna see her getting it from a young hung stud.............................Oh"

    Think about it.
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    I didn't say one had to wait. the problem, as I mentioned, is with the resilience of various strands.

    I didn't say it wouldn't work; but that there is a chance it won't. He needs to be prepared for that if he decided(s) to utilize the PEP route.

    Some people often like to use the male in pornography as proxy for themselves. I don't think that, that necessarily has to do one's bisexuality
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    I'm kind of confused with how what you're saying her comports with what you originally said, which was:

    ^^^That statement is incorrect. Period. And I'm not sure how your reply to me squares with that. Could you clarify for me, please?
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    No--- it is not.

    Antivirals have frequently been used on patients with viruses like HSV, AIDS, Hep, etc. Those patients already have the virus. They are used to reduce flare ups, prevent viral loading (to prevent the contraction of it into others), and to help with overall comfort.
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    Ooh, ooh, ooh, I know what to call you! Not gay, not straight, not bi, bi-curious, pan-sexual, not thrill-sexual, not any of those... How about a Primate, or more specifically, human?

    You like sex. It feels good. You may be pretty much attracted to women all the time, and never men, but this once you did something a bit different. It doesn't mean you have to change the pattern of vibrating air expelled from you when communicating about your sexual preferences as a result. Just say, "I've always been attracted to women, and once I had sex with a man."

    That's it. No worries!

    I can't imagine that the sex itself was so horrific you need to forget it. More likely, the guilt and or fear that the event somehow alters who you want to be is horrifying.So, just add it to the list of events in your life and be ok with it. Or try. You'll be happier than you would trying to destroy memories of what would otherwise be a normal and enjoyable human activity.

    Cheers!
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    Stop being so hung up on labels and things you have tried. Denial isn't going to change what you did, or how you feel about it now. You obviously were at least curious about m/m sex, or you wouldn't have been looking on grndr in the first place. So you went through with your experiment and decided it wasn't your thing after all. Stop making a big deal over it. The truth is, a majority of males have experimented with other males as adolescents, although most won't openly admit it. The majority of these guys go on to identify as heterosexual. So you experimented a bit later in life. Stop beating yourself up over it. Accept what you did and get over it.

    xx
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    Many people experiment with the other sex and doing so is simply that, experimenting. I've read that women do more bi experimenting than men. Why? That's a thread on its own. I am past the experimenting point and concider myself Bi.

    I don't think your gay or bi. If you enjoyed it and want to repeat the acts then maybe you're gay or bi. Regardless, you had some fun. Leave it at that and see if anything develops.

    Anal sex is a high risk sexual act. I have read that all anal sex has the potential to cause small incisions and they are what the STD are looking for -- access to the inner body. Don't know if this is true but I'd go to a clinic RIGHT NOW.
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    And he hasn't come back and responded. And he barely has any posts here.
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    It all seems a little odd...just a little.....
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    Haha it's a conspiracy. No I double posted (in fact triple posted) because I want to get the opinions of a wide range of people. This was a seriously big deal for me at the time. I hope you understand. Now that I've got that wide range and one week later I am at peace with it and I'll tell you why. Because I am not going to make life decisions about what people tell me to do on a Internet board...I'm going to make them myself and I like girls. The end. Thank you all for your opinion and I appreciate those who actually put some thought into it to try and help me along. Sorry if I'm not supposed to post on two boards.

    To answer other questions: type sex forums into google, these are the top two so i joined them. I enjoy reading so if I'm posting, something is seriously eating at me. I think this was my first double post. Fire and 12 sorry to shoot you down but there's nothing odd about me excepting what this post is about. I'm a simple normal guy who likes sex. That's why I'm here...if I haven't met some weird membership requirement...I'll leave. As you can see by my not responding for a week, I do have a life outside the Internet.
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    Well glad to hear that you've found some closure on this....and as far as I know it's no crime to post on another forum....and hip forums is a good one.